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If you were TTC and had been for some time would you pause to avoid an August baby?

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twinklytroll · 09/10/2011 22:12

We were carrying on TTC and not intending to stop, someone said to me that they were surprised that I was not taking a break and trying again when I would get a Sept due date.

I have to admit I did not pay dates any attention the first time but it now has me thinking.

I am over 35 so my gut feeling is that I cannot afford to be too choosy.

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 10/10/2011 09:23

Dnephew was due 25th August and came 9th Sept (though his dob is 09.09.09 which is pretty cool!).
Kat is right. To avoid these inconvenient months I think you'd struggle to know when to ttc!

libelulle · 10/10/2011 09:27

I admit was relieved when I didn't fall pregnant the month I'd have got an August birthday. So was delighted when DS due date fell in October. Except that he was born in June! These things are not really amenable to planning imo.

eurochick · 10/10/2011 13:17

The thought has crossed my mind too. In fact last year, we even put back starting properly to ttc by a month to avoid an August due date. Now, a year on, I care less and just want to be pregnant.

I think I was influenced by the fact that the youngest girl in my year at school (an August baby) was very young for her age and babyish and also struggled academically. But I know plenty of July and August babies who have done well for themselves so I guess it depends on the individual.

GenericDietCola · 10/10/2011 13:35

I won't be delaying as I just want a baby. This hadn't occurred to me when TTC DD, but she ended up being born in September and a lot of people commented that that will put her at an advantage academically. Having said that, there are pros and cons to being born in August/September and other months, so, no, I won't be waiting!

whereismywine · 10/10/2011 14:16

As a reception teacher for many years I would have no qualms whatsoever about having an august baby. I can hand on heart say that it can make quite a difference in terms of achievement in the early years but this goes for all summer born babies from may-aug in terms of all the stats I've ever done on my classes. I've taught exceptionally bright summer babes and sept-oct babes that have struggled. And early years settings should cater beautifully for all children's needs (or maybe I'm just biased as early years is my thing). I'm not up on how this impacts on a child's academic achievement long term tho and I know that my colleague would totally disagree with me! But heck I've been trying for 11 months and I'd give anything just to be pregnant, regardless of due date. So, my advice would be to just keep trying - every egg is precious! Sorry if this is bossy, I'm just in a broody mood!

KatAndKit · 10/10/2011 14:25

In any case having a baby is not like ordering out of the Argos catalogue. You don't really get that much choice into what you have or when it is born.

farfallarocks · 10/10/2011 14:28

No way!
I would be grateful for any month at all. I managed to get pregnant in June and worked out what a wonderful mat leave I would have starting in March, thought I had timed it perfectly. A MC and chemical pregnancy later I look back at myself like this

JodieHarsh · 10/10/2011 14:29

A ha! Ahhhhh-ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaaa! A-HA-HA-HA-Ha-HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!

Ahem.

Er, no.

RickGhastley · 10/10/2011 14:30

If you are concerned that an August baby won't be able to cope with school you can always start him/her at school in the January or even the next September.

InTheSunshine · 10/10/2011 19:38

No, like many others have said I'd just settle for a baby. After 2 years of trying I won't care when / if I get pregnant. I was an Oct baby and am not academic. My sister was born late July & she's off the scale genius who excelled at school.

winkle2 · 10/10/2011 20:19

No I just want a baby. Couldn't care less about the due date!

icooksocks · 10/10/2011 20:38

I'm an August baby and I'm cool, no major social/academic problems (I even went to a grammar school )
I said at the begining of my last cycle that it would probably be better if I wasnt succesful this cycle as baby would be due in June and I have enough birthdays in June already (DH and Ds1 are both June as well as BIL)
I got my BFP last weds and I'm due 11th June providing everything goes well-ho hum, I'm just bloody thrilled we are expecting again.

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twinklytroll · 10/10/2011 22:06

Thankyou for all your comments which echoes what I thought. I am wondering if the person concerned realised how much we are struggling to conceive, as others have said we just want a baby

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needinstructions · 11/10/2011 10:11

My DC are both late summer birthdays and so far so good. In fact, the three most advanced academically in DD's class have late July and August birthdays. They don't seem to struggle socially either.

I actually like the idea of being among the youngest in the class. You have an 'excuse' if you're a bit behind - not that I feel it's necessary, I hasten to add, I'm a big believer in all kids developing at their own rates and getting there in the end, but I wonder if it takes the pressure off a bit.

I might be biased though as DC's nursery and school have both been amazing and really brought out the best in all the kids, as far as I can see.

Poppyjen · 11/10/2011 20:13

Nope - don't miss a month you'll always wonder "what if" especially if you've been trying for a while (like me!).

Anyway, here's a thought, if lots of people do avoid TTC an August baby then the hospitals/birthing centres/midwives will be less busy and may very well have a better experience with the whole birth thing

Amonstercooper · 12/10/2011 08:07

On the flip side if you have been TTC for a long time, there's something to be said for giving your minds and bodies a month off from it all. Not sure it would be any less stressful to not try than to try though if it was me!

nearlymumofone · 12/10/2011 08:43

I'm glad I didn't 'pause to avoid an august baby', I cracked on and now I have a beautiful ds sitting next to me- he came late anyway so he's a september baby as it is. Does it really matter when they are born? Most people on here would give their right arm for a baby born at any time.

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twinklytroll · 12/10/2011 19:41

I am someone who would give my right arm for a baby.

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maybunny · 13/10/2011 18:56

Oh my goodness, these type of comments really annoy me, just like the ones I got for having a baby due in December. If you want a baby you wont care what time of year it comes and it really doesn't matter at all in the grand scheme of things. To have a baby is gift and we shouldn't worry about being able to 'choose' the perfect time of year, just like we shouldn't choose the sex, hair colour, eye colour etc...
So many people struggle to conceive (myself included) that these sort of ideas are quite offensive really.

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