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shit things about ttc......

83 replies

carriedababi · 29/09/2011 11:20

1, being unable to book next years holidays, as we don't know if i'll be pg or even have a baby by then

2, not being able to fully commit to starting out on certain things in case you can't cary on

3, waiting for your period

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carriedababi · 29/09/2011 19:34

oh yes splashing yourself with wee is a regular occurance, esp if doing ov tests!

oh yeah and its the not actually knowing if it will ever happen that drives me mad,i jsut want to know

oh thought oif another,,,getting through a whiole tub of folic acid, still not pg, then realising you need to buy another 90 tab tub!

oh and another, wonderign if you should tell certain people or not

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carriedababi · 29/09/2011 19:35

headfairy are you ttc atm?

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headfairy · 29/09/2011 19:48

No, sadly. Not allowed any more :(

Oh and I'm ancient :o

I'm one of those irritating people who spent 18 months ttc #1 (spending a lot of time on these boards in that time :o) and then after ds was born i got pg three times in a row taking only one month each time!

MiniH · 29/09/2011 19:48

I can add - Developing an almost pavlovian response to seeing a pregnant women in the street (ie complete strangers) whereby I think to myself 'bitch' - all because she's pg and I'm not. Ridiculous!

carriedababi · 29/09/2011 20:00

oh i see headfairy
Grin
i know a few people that took a while to get pg with number one, then fell quickly with the following ones

wheres your next holiday too then?

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Bearcrumble · 29/09/2011 20:05

Oh yes yes I couldn't help hating pregnant women, especially the ones with the London Transport 'baby on board' badges.

headfairy · 29/09/2011 20:24

We're going to St Lucia in Jan, but that's a freebie :o

GoldenDaffodil · 29/09/2011 20:26

I find Facebook really hard at the moment, especially when people use scan photos as profile pics. I hate myself for being jealous but 13 months in I just can't help it. I agree that hearing people say they fell pg by accident is also very hard to hear.

I hate the sense of failure I feel every time I get a bfn. Not being managing to do something we are biologically programmed to do is hard to accept. It makes me feel helpless which I can't stand.

I hate the was sex becomes so regimented - maybe the rest of you are better at dealing with this than I am but my sex life is totally dictated by my clear blue fertility monitor.

Finally I find it frustrating if you do decide to confide in someone that you're ttc (only a handful of people in my life know) and they wink and say what fun it must be. It really isn't!!

I totally get to spilled wee and getting through hundreds of colic acid comments too!!

Sorry for ranting. I'm particularly stressed today because my period is 3 days late and when I did a test on Tuesday it was negative so I'm not sure what's wrong with me Sad

GoldenDaffodil · 29/09/2011 20:28

I totally get the spilled wee and getting through hundreds of folic acid comments too Blush

elesbells · 29/09/2011 20:36

I hate living my life month to month and counting days...."Oh today is day 11 and getting excited"

Having sex even if I don't feel like it because "today could be the day it happens"

The two week wait for AF

Symptom spotting...I'm sure i feel sick and dizzy every month Hmm

I could go on and on....cycle 16 and still waiting...

mrsden · 29/09/2011 20:42

I hate that I know more about the science and process of ttc than friends who are pregnant.

I hate the fact that I have to forego my dignity and undergo numerous examinations, blood tests, scans etc.

I hate that I have to pay for fertility treatment.

I hate feeling like a failure.

I hate not having anyone to talk to in RL who really understands because everyone in my life is super fertile.

Discolite · 29/09/2011 20:49

Going insane for the week before AF with the 'what if' state of mind.

Getting engaged but not being able to book the wedding (leading to constant questions about when it's going to be, relatives getting edgy about booking their holidays, argh).

Having to have sex when you really, really don't want to.

Constantly being quizzed about why you're not drinking, with some people hinting about pregnancy (if only!).

And yes, the not drinking thing SUCKS. Even if I only drink during AF I feel guilty.

OPKs drive me insane. Not being able to drink for two hours, then having to let the wee reach room temperature, then waiting for the result for ten minutes. I'm not bothering next month (that is, if I don't get pregnant).

AuntieDoris · 29/09/2011 22:02

I hate the feeling that TTC is such a chore. I thought it would be such fun and yet it feels routine and medicalised.

I resent the fact that I feel like my body has failed me.

I find it so hard when I hold my 6-month-old niece and my first thought is 'you should be mine' :(

winkle2 · 29/09/2011 22:28

Being stuck in a job that's over an hours commute away cause I can't change jobs cause of mat leave.

kellestar · 29/09/2011 22:38

A little bit of weight gain and everyone asking when is the baby due.

kittysaysmiaow · 29/09/2011 23:49

I hate feeling like I have absolutely no control over such a major thing in my life.

sprinkles77 · 30/09/2011 00:47

That sex is a chore. That pms feels exactly the same as early pg did last time. People asking when we'll have another DC.

greenzebra · 30/09/2011 08:24

the constant toing and froing on ttc, swi and fitness program. Need to lose weight but also ttc at the same time, so during the tww, fitness goes out the window and the symptoms pile up, then AF arrives, you curse yourself that you thought you were pg but then you cant do any fitness as you are stuffering from weak legs, leakage and any other AF problems (and stuffing your face with chocolate telling yourself it helps with the pain!), then you get back into the fitness program only to start swi again and the tww. So in all of that you wonder why you bloody bother with the fitness program at all, but then you look in the mirror and your back on it again!

Looking in shops at the new fashion, but thinking oh I cant have that Im probably going to be pregnant very soon, so you go around in your old tatty clothes.

AF symptoms! Why oh why do they have to be the same as Pg symptoms!? Leading you into false hope every month, only to have the utter failure hit you, then you are a super bitch for a couple of days due to PMT but also because your angry your not pg.

You start looking at home remedies for TTC, manuka honey, tigers testicles, dancing naked in the rain, you'll try anything and spend a fortune on it all, and in the end you have manuka honey leaking out of your pours and your wet! And your not pg, and you've run out of money!

Oh and not to mention your husband can't perform due to all the pressure!

mamalovebird · 30/09/2011 08:46

Can i join?

Ttc number 2, just had first negative test and feeling really upset :(
I know it's only the first time we've started trying and I know it could take months, even years, but I'm upset nevertheless.

As DS1 was a very happy accident, I fear this whole actual trying thing might send me bonkers if this is how I feel after just one failed go.

What do all the abbreviations mean? AF? POAS?

Do ovulation kits work? Do taking the vitamins work? I'm going out to buy some his & hers one this weekend.

greenzebra · 30/09/2011 08:54

AF - Aunt Flow - period

POAS - Pee on a stick

TTC- Trying to Conceive

SWI - Sex with intent

TTW - Two week wait.

mamalovebird · 30/09/2011 08:56

Thank you Greenzebra. I fathomed out TTC, but would never have got AF at all.

thinNigella · 30/09/2011 09:01

Book that holiday. You'll never have another one the same after you do get pregnant.

And buy an ovulation kit, they work.

ToPeeOrNotToPee · 30/09/2011 09:01

I hate that my sister is older but is much more fertie. I hate that I'm in my mid twenties but am having so much trouble. It's been 17 months of trying now and nothing. Something must be wrong

carriedababi · 30/09/2011 09:43

st lucia for freeEnvy
you lucky girl

oh i totally get the one about not buying any clothes,as you think whats the point, by the time i can wear it agagin after pg, thats if it still fits! you may have gone off it.
i haven/t really biught any new clothes for agessssss

and yes the lackof control over such a massive thing in your life.

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GenericDietCola · 30/09/2011 10:05

This time when AF arrived I bought loads of new clothes - I'm sick of wearing tatty old things, hoping that I'll be in maternity clothes soon! I'm sure it will happen now...

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