Newbie here.....am I mad to be refusing to do a test?

[clingingtosanity]

Hello!

Never posted on this board before so I hope I'm not treading on anyone's toes or messing with the etiquette ;-)

Bit of background: I have an almost 3yo son & since having him my periods have been much heavier, more frequent & not as regular.

We decided to start trying for a 2nd bub about 6mths ago at which point I started using a period tracker app on my phone. I'd decided I wasn't going to go down the temperature taking etc route just yet as, tbh, I stressed myself out doing that massively the 1st time.

Anyway, my last cycles have been 28, 26, 32, 27, 24, 25 & it's calculated my average cycle as being 25 days.

CD1 was 15/06 & I got some bleeding from 24-26/06 (CD10-12) which I've never had before although the past couple of mths I've had some pinky brown discharge at about the same point in my cycle. When I googled the bleeding (as you do!) it mentioned it being a possible sign of ovulation so DH & I duly got jiggyjiggy! ;-)

So now I find myself 6 days late (CD31) according to my period tracker but the irregularity of my periods is making me incredibly reluctant to test yet.

I want this so SO badly that I think a BFN will break me right now.

I have crampy period type pains (but very low down) & low back pain as if AF is going to arrive but I remember having these when I got pg before. My boobs also seem a little bigger, I feel bloated, 'tight' across the stomach & swollen & I almost constant indigestion but this has been for about 7 days now.

I really REALLY don't want to get my hopes up but what do you all think I should do?

Sorry it's such a long first post, thanks for reading x

Well, no AF but a BFN

Onwards to next month I guess.....

Oh no :( I have heard of people not getting BFP until sort of 18 or 19 dpo but think you must be in need of a hug and a this morning, perhaps even a ? xx

oh no - how frustrating. Still, it's not over till AF arrives. Hope you get some news one way or the other before too much longer.

Thank you, all offers of hugs along with tea/biscuits/chocolate gratefully accepted although I don't really fancy anything atm due to feeling sick, probably from being upset.

Desperately trying not to Google 'false negatives' as I used FMU with a Clearblue digital so it's pretty conclusive.

Just need to accept it didn't happen this time & move on.

For what it's worth, we've also got a nearly 3YO DS and have been trying for No 2 for a while now (19 mths, but hope it doesn't take you that long). There is a lovely thread here (hope the link works) for people ttc for 6 mths+.

Sorry you got a BFN. I got a BFN with a clearblue digital. That BFN is now 2 and a half and a lovely annoying little boy.

I'm sorry about the BFN.

If you're starting to get mid-cycle bleeding when you haven't normally, it's worth getting it checked out with your doctor (although it's probably nothing to worry about).

Not sure I'm up to checking out that thread yet, but thank you Biscuitsandtea - just reading the 6mths+ part made me well up, maybe when I'm not so upset as I'm sure everyone is really supportive :) Hope you get your BFP soon x

Really kayzr? Well, maybe if AF hasn't appeared in the next 7 days I'll try again with a different brand but I'm really trying to accept that I'm not pg this time. :)

Don't worry PirateDinosaur will definitely be making a GP appointment this week as well as booking the dreaded smear once AF finally arrives.

Thanks again everyone x

I get what you mean Clinging - apologies as that wasn't very thoughtful of me . It's not exactly like people are just waiting to qualify for the 6 mth + thread and I see now that that is probably the last thing you needed reminding of.

I do hope I haven't made you feel worse - apologies again xx

Hi Clinging I have been lurking to see how you get on. Sorry about the BFN. The only thing I will say about the digitals is that they require a much higher concentration of HCG than the other 'standard' tests.

Really hope you get your BFP soon

Please don't feel bad Biscuitsandtea I really didn't take it that way & I understand how supportive those threads can be.

I'm feeling a bit better about things now after going to see my Mum

Thanks maybebabyR - so do I!

So sorry to hear was a BFN. . This probably won't cheer you up, but 6 months isn't really that long, so try not to get too down about it (easy for me to say, we've only been TTC for 2 months - I'll probably be equally down in 4 month's time .)

Thank you You're right & I realise a lot of people try for much longer than that so I'm going to be more positive and be thankful for DS, who never fails to brighten my mood

I was just spoilt I think as it happened fairly quickly first time (4mths, off pill 6mths) but I know that doesn't mean it will happen that way again.

When I think about it now too, because I haven't been charting, we probably haven't really been TRYING trying iykwim

Clingingtosanity I did a clearblue one the day my AF was due and it was negative so just thought I was pregnant. Then 2 weeks later realised I hadn't had AF yet so did a first response test which was positive. I think its rare though.

clinging I totally 100% understand where you are at, I too have only been trying 7 months which in most peoples terms is nothing but for me and I'm sure you is an eternity! I was mega late last month and kept saying I know I'm not and getting bfn's but deep down I was kidding myself and thought I'd be the one with the false negative :( needless to say af arrived and I was gutted, take the pressure off and try and think it will happen when it happens (easier said than done I know!) big big hugs and fx next month is yours :)

Thanks goingmadtrying - hope you get your BFP very soon too! :)

Well, I've made an appointment to see a female GP at my surgery this morning.

Still no AF, but none of the other 'phantom' symptoms I was convincing myself about either!

Only things that remain are occasional painful crampy type pains in my stomach, a dull achey sensation in my tummy in the mornings with a slightly queasy feeling (but this goes as soon as I eat) and dreadful lower back pain. Suspect I may have some kind of bug.

Going to the GP this morning as I now also have thrush too (lovely) so want to try & find out just WTH is going on.

Good luck Clinging hope they get to the bottom of it all xx

So what happened then?

Not much!

GP reckons that stress (recently had a hit of a BC scare) is the cause of my delayed period this month & that may also have brought on this bout of thrush.

Got a prescription so hoping it acts quickly!

Have to go back in no period in the next 4 weeks and then they'll do blood tests.

Omg how spooky just thought I'd check in, I too have thrush??? And was v late with last af mmmmm wonder what that means

Are you stressed too goingmadtrying? My doc said sometimes we don't even realise we're stressing about things, but our body does, iykwim?

I must admit, was a bit surprised she didn't do another pg test just to be sure before she prescribed something.....

Still waiting for AF.....

Not overly, to be honest I've sort of forgotten about ttc this month, hope you get a definate answer soon :)