Trying for baby number four

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This is such a hard suject to raise as most people on this site might be really judgmental about me but here goes. I have three chldren 10,8 and 14 months. My husband and I desperalty want a 4th child bit for the first time are really struggling to get pregnat. I have got pregant but miscarried and the stres is really getting to me. i feel so guilty wanting a fourth but I feel everyone has a number and mine is 4. I don'tknow if I am stupid thinking about thngs like IUI or if I should jsut acept that my family needs to be three. Is anyone else in this situation or can emapthise?
BABB x

Just wanted to say I was so lucky with my first as we conceived in the first month of trying. DS2 took 7 long months of trying. I got sooo stressed and fed up which really doesn't help. So I know where you are coming from. You have an ideal plan in your head. I wanted my second before the first went to school. A bit daft really but at the time seemed really important.
Have you been trying long?

Hi there, can totally empathise with your feelings as i am in exactly the same situation. I have 3 children and would really like a fourth. Unfortunately i have had 4mcs trying to have my final baby. I now feel like i have become really obsessed with it-am having lots of testing done to see why i am now miscarrying (prob because am now 40!). Really tried to stop and be happy with my existing family-which i am. But I think i need to do all that i can before i let the dream go of a 4th. Completely irrational-never thought that i would want a larger family. Good luck. Let me know how you get on. x

Yes, I know what you are feeling! I had nr 3 as my third c-section, and was rather sad when the surgeon said he would advice against having another one. Now my youngest is four months, my husband is also voicing a wish to have nr 4.
Of course we are very happy with our three children, it's just that thought tht we always had of having four.
It's nice to know there are other people thinking in a similar vein, as I was thinking like the first lady posting here, that people would be judgemental and just say not to be greedy... But it's a strong wish together with the knowledge that it's a bit of a luxury.
Best wishes to to you all!

I'm posting for the first time here also because I wondered if anyone had experience of being told they have a very thin uterus? After my third the surgeon said it was paper-tissue thin, and also the bladder was high, so he was advising against a fourth pregnancy. It would be a c-section and he said the chance of having the bladder cut would be high. Any advice on this would be very welcome.

Hello Ladies, this is my first post also and i'm currently trying to convince DH to have a fourth child. We have Ds-5,Dd1-4,Dd2-6 mths. we had a mc inbetween Dd1 and 2 and it is always in the back of my mind that it could happen again :(. Ds keeps asking for a brother and i have explained that we couldnt be sure we'd have a boy. This got me thinking about a fourth child because i wouldnt mind what the sex of the baby was, id just like to have four children. Dh and I always said we'd like four and when we had Dd2 everyone said 'you'll have another!'. But Dh now isn't so sure :/.
Best wishes to you all

Hi BABB, I can totally empathise with your situation.
I have three children too, DS 19,DD1 12,DD2 8. I had a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks, tried again after my first AF, conceived straight away but miscarried again at 6 weeks .
We are going to try again ,I know my age is against me now (I'm 44) and the possibility of miscarrying again is high, but the heartbreak of not trying and never knowing if we could have our much longed for fourth baby would be worse.
I never would have thought I would feel such an intesity of longing. I think when you miscarry it's a mixture of grief for the little life lost and "empty arm syndrome" where you feel an almost desperation to be pregnant again.

Hi Babb
We are trying to decide when to TTC no 4. My ds's are 5, 2.8, and 1.
Common sense for money reasons etc mean we should wait a few months but I am nervous about finding myself in your position and wishing we'd just got on with it. I had a MMC between ds1 and ds2 so can totally empathise with how you must be feeling.
Good luck with whatever you decide