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my friend is in hospital with terrible pains in tummy

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superblastofflips · 19/11/2005 10:55

she had been TTC for a 3rd baby and had the signs of feeling pg weeks ago but had 2 negative pg tests. she went to docs yesterday to see whats the pains and they booked her in for next week for a swab. She got taken in to hospital last nite and they told her that she IS pg and is having the scan today.... possibly be a etopic pg

could that be true?

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noddyholder · 23/11/2005 15:59

why can't they scan her straight away?

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superblastofflips · 23/11/2005 16:01

TO LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT IM POSTING ON THIS THREAD ON THE BEHALF OF MY FRIEND

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superblastofflips · 23/11/2005 16:05

she said that it was too early to see it as she is about 5 weeks pg. so they are checking the hormone level again and if its rises, they will try and find it inside her womb or tube

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superblastofflips · 23/11/2005 19:45

so fingers cross she be ok??

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Rachee · 23/11/2005 20:03

My aunt had a misscarrige then, weeks later she had another one...... she was carrying twins. Get them to check for that, my aunt never knew she was still pregnent, so the second was a double whammy !!!

Rachee · 23/11/2005 20:08

BTW aunt went on to second pregnacy , lost again one twin, other survived. and she is now 15 years old ( the twin, not my aunt) LOL

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superblastofflips · 23/11/2005 20:46

well i was thinking that too, but how will she know ass she is only 5 weeks pg?

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Rachee · 23/11/2005 21:53

How do they know she -5- weeks, if they know that much exactly, surely they can work out hormones for two littlies...

Sometimes these things need to be suggested to the men that be !!!

hows she doing ??

Rachee · 23/11/2005 21:54

it wasn't even suggested to my aunt, but as i said this was 15 years ago now.....

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superblastofflips · 25/11/2005 20:53

well my friend went back into hosp today and they gave her the FINAL verdict!! baby is in the womb but it not going to progress into a normal pg. they wont operate cos its not ectopic, it will miscarry eventually and the docs wont give any treatment cos its toxic (the baby). so she is just waiting to miscarry naturally (she hadnt miscarried as yet! god thats sounds so horrible! )

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superblastofflips · 27/11/2005 00:03

oh my friend is in a bad way as she said that its not fair that her baby is still inside her growing and she is waiting to miscarry it. she said that she'll have to wait till she is 9 weeks pg (she got another 4 weeks to go)

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Rachee · 27/11/2005 20:24

oh my.... that sucks !!! what thing to deal with... so sorry. xXx

mummytosteven · 27/11/2005 20:25

your poor friend.
by toxic, do they mean that it's a molar pregnancy?

munz · 27/11/2005 20:41

can't they help out at all with the D&C is it they call it?

that's just awful for her.

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superblastofflips · 27/11/2005 21:56

not sure on a molar pg as ive never heard of it but her body doesnt recognise that its a baby and her body is attacking it and worse of all she is starting to show. (i cannot find on the website an example meaning of the word)

she doesnt want to leave it that long as she is going back on fri to check on baby and more blood tests. they can either give her drugs to make her miscarry but its very toxic, the drugs is only used for ectopic pgs, or D & C (as munz said) where the docs put her to sleep and they suck it out, BUT that can perferate her womb. so there are risks in both the docs want her to miscarry it naturally... what a bummer!

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mummytosteven · 27/11/2005 22:08

oh gosh what an awful situation for your friend.

munz · 28/11/2005 10:05

when u say v toxic - as in baby is or the drugs she would need r? (what does it mean to have a toxic baby?)

have they said if there's any hope at all - if baby is a tough cookie sort of thing? - what would happen at 9 weeks if she's still not M/C?

I really feel for her it must be horrid.

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superblastofflips · 28/11/2005 10:30

yes as toxic in baby and no she had got to miscarry it.. thats all i can say for now

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superblastofflips · 28/11/2005 10:31

its sort of a miscarriage she is going thru atm

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jinglediddle · 29/11/2005 07:25

how do they know she won't miscarry until 9 wks, surely it could happen at any time?
she may not have to wait that long. most hospitals give you a choice of either d&c or miscarrying naturally.
I miscarried naturally twice thsi year already, and you should be prepared for the paina nd upset this can cause, she will need your support, she will feel very drained, and empty and very very emotional, regardless of whether she knew she was pregnant or had time to bond with the baby. When you see your baby flushed away downt he toilet it is heartbreaking.
Be strong for her, and fi she needs someone to talk to, or even just to sit with her or go and get her some milk etc, she will appreciate your support in any way you can.
You sound like a wonderful friend, you ahve gone to so much trouble to find out as much as you can, she's very lucky to have you.
I hope she's doing ok, although i know she's probably not.

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superblastofflips · 29/11/2005 10:53

sorry what i meant to say that she can miscarry at anytime and got up to 9 weeks pg (she is about 6.5 wks pg now), if not miscarried by 9 wks, the docs will have to find another alternative.

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Willow2 · 29/11/2005 10:58

So sad to hear that there isn't a happy ending to this - give your friend a hug from us all.

firstnikki · 01/12/2005 12:53

Yes I too had the natural MC last week at 9weeks and it is distressing. They do try to avoid D&C and tablets to protect the womb as much as possible so I am told. That way there's a better chance for next time.
jinglediddle : - I also agree re: the toilet I can't come to terms with the fact our baby has gone that way.

biglipskissinunderthemistletoe · 01/12/2005 22:57

ooh so sorry to hear about that firstnikki...yeah my friend said it was horrible to see it in the loo as so upsetting

Are you getting any support from your family atm? or on here too (my friend is too terrified to come on so she is waiting till it all over before coming on here)

FirstSaintNikkilass · 02/12/2005 14:00

Support from most of family and definitely on the ttc after m/c thread too. So as my dr put it I have got back on my bike and started pedalling again.

I find talking on here helps loads as you can say exactly how you feel and be understood. Whereas with family sometimes difficult to express exactly how feel in case its taken the wrong way.

It's a personal thing but I found this site just before I m/c and came back on pretty quickly to advise what had happened for anonymous support but talking to others in the same situation has helped me each day you realise that you are certainly not alone.

Thoughts are with your friend and if she needs support there are some great ladies to talk with. x