TTC for almost a year!

[Sillyshell]

Hi, not looking for advice just wanted to share how sad I am :( It's my first wedding anniversary on Sat and we will offically have been trying for a year. When I got married I was convinced I would have a honeymoon baby and everything would be fabulous. How naive I was! Never imagined a whole year later and nothing.

If I knew what I know now, think I would have started years ago!

didn't want you to go unanswered but this month is my 12 month anniversary of trying too. it totally sucks. and frustrated.

17 months. Yes it sucks!
Try to.enjoy your anniversary, eat what you can't when ur pg and get pissed!!

Just wanted to also add you are not alone! Onto month 20 in a few days when af turns up (which it always bloody seems too!)

Believe me it is hard, but as bex said focus on the stuff that you can do whilst still not pregnant... eat the foods you can, drink and enjoy spending time with friends and family.

Also - you might want to start getting your standard tests done with the GP - Day 2 and 21 bloods, thyroid and sperm analysis just to rule out anything. They say you shoud do this after a year of TTC if you are under 35 or 6 months of TTC if you are over 35.

We will get there (optimistic emotion) !

I think the 12 month mark is particularly depressing because you are facing the prospect of another birthday trying, another May bank holiday still trying or whatever.

I also think that when you start out you imagine having a newborn after 12 months or at least being heavily pregnant - I know I did.

The only thing to do is to keep remembering that with every month that passes you are closer to your BFP!

sorry you are at the 12 month point OP (and others)

i started TTC#2 after i got married in august 2007 and i am still TTC now. i do have medical issues that are the cause of my lack of success but i didnt know this until i had investigations after TTC for 12 months myself. i say get checked out, have a massive relaxing, blow out drunken weekend around your "fertile" time and go for it hammer and tongs with your DH either way you will have a good time and you may come out of it with a little surprise this does seem to work for me (my medical condition causes MCs and i have had 6 since starting TTC#2) so not totally duff advice

Hi, thank you for your support. I do feel bad for moaning as I know some of you have been trying a lot longer and have had to deal with MCs, which I cant even imagine how awful that would be.

We're going to give it another couple of months then see a dr, as I'm 36 in a few months so I know my age is working against me!

xx

Hi Sillyshell,

You should be seeing a doctor now as you are 35 and you have been ttc for a year. Your H should also attend this appt.

Do not delay any longer, both of you should now be tested further to see where the problem/s lie. This will mean blood tests for you and semen analyses (more than one test is needed as one semen analysis is not conclusive) It can be that one or both of you are equally contributing to the subfertility.

Hi I'm pretty much in the same position, celebrated my first wedding anniversary too on saturday and have now offically been trying for 9 months as had a miscarriage last year, 2months after our wedding I was lucky to fall pregnantn then went on to lose it at 3 months, I'm 33 34 this year! And Month after month gets harder! Good luck with the rest of the process, keep us informed.

Hello same boat here nearly. We are on our 10th month of officially trying :( getting married in august so I am going to book an apt with the gp when we get back to see what's happening. Lots of pg or recently popped friends now so feeling a teeny bit jealous and sad but concentrating on the wedding to keep me perky.

Hi, similar boat here. I've been ttc for 10 months now and am getting a bit bored/upset about it! Everyone says not to think about it and it will happen but how are you not supposed to think about it?! I have a wonderful DD but would love to have number 2 quite soon. I'm off to see GP in August too so will see what happens then.

Fingers crossed for everyone.