Sixth Form Common Room part III - post mc ttc & pregnancy

[ZamMummyInGabs]

Hoping to continue the trend of the lucky thread....

Hi ladies. Just checking in to say hello.

lady congrats on being in the house. I understand what you mean about feeling down about the chances of a future pregnancy. I don't get pg very easily so I suppose I was reminicing about seeing the bfps rather than looking forward. In reality I know it will be a long and scary 40 weeks and that's if I'm lucky. I swing between thinking the losses were sheer bad luck and that next time will be different and thinking well if I have another that'll be 3 in a row so they'll test... It's horrible isn't it. A girl at work announed her pg yesterday and it's killing me.

Good luck to all swi-ers and 2ww-ers. Fingers crossed for some BFPs soon xx

With you mouse and LadyB I swing wildly between 'it is all a bad dream' and next time things will be just fine - through to 'should I really cancel mammogram in 5 weeks time if I get pregnant as I will most probably have mc'ed before the appointment' - oh well one of them will be right. I have two sister-in-laws and two good friends pregnant and a friend I am seeing on Friday who I am certain has been avoiding seeing me as she is going to tell me she is pregnant. It just feels like everyone else flies through the whole process and I am stalled!

ladybee glad to hear you're all settled in. Interesting that you're having thoughts about giving up ttc, in some ways it would be nice to have that release. I didn't tell the reiki healer that I'd miscarried at first, but I mentioned it after she asked me out of the blue what happened in march. After that point she was very specific that my next pregnancy would be fine. Anyway, she's given me renewed hope. We'll see if she's right or not.

mouse are you ttc next cycle then? I hope your cycles don't revert back to being long like mine have. Waiting for ovulation is almost worse than the 2ww - at least with the 2ww I know that I'll have an answer by a certain date.

battery glad to hear DP will be able to join you for the 12 week scan. Wishing you so much luck for that.

Am 4dpo and so far no side effects from steroids, but will see how I feel in another week. Am going to email my temp chart to my acupuncturist and see if he thinks I need another session this week or whether we can leave it till next cycle.

Waves at aandr, knitter, izzy, falcon, yrmotb, teaspoon and any other lurkers.

Hello from a very wet Pembrokeshire! We've spent the day in an indoor adventure area...it really doesn't feel like June, I had to put the heating on in the cottage to dry our coats and boots! That'll teach me for only holidaying an hour from home!

stitch I hope your 2ww passes quickly with a bfp at the end of it!

How are things falcon?

knitter that seems like a long wait for your results. I hope that your good feeling about this month is right.

I'm starting smep this week too AandR, I'm day 6 today.

That's great that dh can be there for your scan battery, what a relief for you.

lady smep is the sperm meets egg plan, it's online. Basically you dtd every other day from day 8, until you get a positive opk. Then every day for 3 days, then a day off, then once more, then test 14 dpo.

I hope your reiki healer is right digi.

I know what you mean about not getting pg easily like everyone else seems to mouse. It always seems so unfair doesn't it?

hello all
I'm back from a lovely holiday. Not as much sun as I was hoping for but at least I didn't feel so guilty about sleeping all day and all night which is mostly what we did, well me anyway

I'll do my best to catch on all the news but it might take a few days.

Firstly, another welcome to the newbies - it's always to have new people join. I like this thread, it's really chilled out. I joined a while back for the same reasons as you as I lost track of everyone on the TTC thread.

ladybee so glad that you are starting to settle in. House and Internet - get you! Can you give yourself a month of not really trying? You've had so much on your plate that perhaps a month or two of no excuses and no pressure (from yourself) is what you need. It's well very me saying that though, because I totally get the stress of every month going by without a BFP. so just ignore me if that's not helpful.

IzzY that's great news about your scan. I was thinking of you last week.

Battery good news on getting a scan date AND DH being able to be there too

Mouse I'm sorry that you had to take a pay cut but I agree with everyone else, the reduction in stress can only be a good thing and often is something you can't put a value on.

BBB have you got your 12 week scan tomorrow? blimey where did that time go? will be thinking of you. Have you heard from Jolls? I'm starting to worry about her. Do you know if she is okay?

MummyA how are you doing too? I'm glad the anti-d's are starting to help. Are you still living with your H or have you managed to get your own space.

I'm sorry I haven't managed to catch up with everyone. I'm already knackered and that's after a week of sleep I'm beginning to wonder if I'm anaemic I'm so tired. I have my booking in with MW tomorrow so will discuss with her.

Big waves to digital, wiggle, AandR, knitter, teaspoon, yrmotb, zam, collie, velvet, blackkat and any other lurkers

I worry about that too digi - waiting for ov is a total pain. I decided to have another AF (hopefully 1st week of July) then try again after that. The consultant said 2/3 cycles but with long cycles I don't want to wait forever. I'd love to go back to work in sept pg again.

Hope you've all had good weekends

ladybee Here is a link to sperm meets egg plan, lovingly known as SMEG

freezing glad to hear you had a lovely holiday, sounds lovely. A week of sleep, mmmmm. Where were you? I've got my booking in today too.

tina I had a look at your place online, it looks lovely! Hope you're having a nice time even if it is raining constantly!

Glad to hear the end is in sight, mouse. That's only 4 weeks until AF is finished, hopefully!

Good luck to bb for her 12 week scan today, this afternoon, I think.

Best go tidy up now. Is it wrong that I am inordinately excited by the prospect of my dinner already? Fishfinger sandwiches and BBQ sauce

waves to everyone, hope you all had lovely weekends.

totally sympton spotting here and only 7dpo

Going away on weekend and determined not to pack any tests so I won't be tempted until monday.

bb is it the 12 week scan today?! Best of luck, lovely x

ladybee and everyone else feeling fed up and down - big (((hug))). I don't get pg easily and I know what the sheer frustration is like . Funnily enough it was when I was starting to think about giving up that I got my bfp...there's no logic to it but I hope the same happens to you.

I keep x-posting with you on the FO thread. Hope you're doing ok and feeling a bit more confident.

battery fab news re scan date and dh being able to make it

aandr lovely to hear from you again, I hope things are ok and the tests aren't getting too stressful. How's the house-building going?

knitter any more promising symptoms?

Hi all hope everything is going well im still in Stressland so just a quick drop by to say hi and thinking of you all, xx

Waves to all

Started with the OPKs today - just to make sure I don't conceive obviously!!

Come on crappy uterus!

Hi everyone,

I am impossibly behind too, so apologies if I have missed lots of news

Issy for your scan results! I am so pleased for you.

mouse so are you waiting this month out then?

Freezing I've had lots of ups and downs really, but on the whole doing OK. H moved out the day after a big row, I own the house so on my therapist and lawyers advice I have asked him to do all visits with DS outside of the house, so he hasnt been back since. Its given me breathing space which is great. I threw a big party for DS's 3rd birthday on Saturday and he loved it. Felt very proud that I pulled it off all by myself (H and all his family boycotted it )

In pregnancy news, I had a big scare today, after a couple of months of just ignoring the fact that I am pregnant I finally had to face it. I had been going to the local "NHS" appointments only and for the second time the doctor couldnt hear anything on the doppler (last heard heartbeat at a private scan at 12 weeks, I am 19 now) so she sent me off with a bit of paper that said "urgent" to the local A & E department for a scan. Cue lots of crying and the enormous realisation of how much I want this baby! Anyway, I couldnt face queuing in the public hospital, so I went for a private scan - everything is fine. Heartbeat fine, and doc thinks its a boy

My therapist has been saying for ages now that I need to act as if this baby is really coming, buy stuff, do up baby room etc and I have been completely ignoring her advice. However, I think it might be time to start believing now, and planning !- its going to be daunting stuff having a baby over here and doing it by myself but it looks like it really is going to happen. So here is the first step: the baby's name will be Max

Just wanted to quickly post to give mummya a big (((hug))) you are doing really well and sound so incredibly brave. So sorry you had horrid scare but and thrilled all is ok. Max is a beautifully simple name and I love it.big brave step, well done x

And Yay for throwing big successful party of ds!! Bet that peed the FIL off, showing them you can and will cope perfectly without H!!

Sorry to post and run, but it's early and I'm late

Of course you're forgiven collie

mummya sounds like you're in a better place. Max is a lovely name for a boy. Make sure you have a backup girl name just in case! well done for throwing the party, it's all about DS, so glad to hear that he had a lovely time. Very childish of H and family not to attend. I think your therapist's advice sounds sound, and it may help bring you closer to baby. It's all looking up!

izz I know, I keep missing you! Am ok really. Maybe over analysing symptoms and feeling a little better this week (10+5), but only in waves. Only 8 days to go til the scan, and then I will finally know. Terrified. In my heart I'm confident, but my head is working overtime. Is it the pointless appointment today? BTW, did you have a private nuchal done, or quadruple test in the end?

freezing how was the booking in appointment? Have you got a scan date too now?

battery Good luck for your scan too, is it Thursday?

Waves to stitch, digi, mouse, falcons, zam, aandr, knitter, ladybee, tina, bb, jolls and everyone else

mummya lovely name, hope the next 20 weeks pass uneventfully.

Just checking in to offer solidarity to stitch i'm also 8dpo today and really wanting to hold out until Monday to test..... sadly I am at home at the weekend so will probably cave. Good luck and waves to all on this sunny day x

Great to hear from you MummyA. You sound like you've made massive progress. I'm seriously impressed. I'm sure it's not all going to be plain-sailing from here but you've got your own house, you've given your DS a wonderful party, and you definately sound more confident- you really are an amazing woman. I love the name Max. Of course, so sorry to hear you had a big scare, no one needs that, but great to have the reassurance that all is fine. You never know, you might even get to enjoy some of your pregnancy.

Collie drop by anytime especially if you bring hot crumpets

YRMOTB booking appointment was fine, MW was really nice and very understanding about my previous MCs. I don't have a scan date yet but should get one soon direct from the hospital now that the paperwork is done. She also took masses of blood including testing for anaemia (which may be standard anyway) but since I've also been short of breath just walking into town I do need to get to the bottom of this. I can't face eating red meat though

Does a pom-pom dance to encourage Mouse's uterus to buck up

Any news from BB?

Good luck to stitch and loup for staying away from the sticks. I have some haddock all lined up here just in case.....

Falcon sorry you're still stressed. Squeeze for you.

Right best go and get on with all the chores before work calls back with some work or I fall asleep again
Waves to Izzy, Jolls, Knitter, Ladybee, Zam, AandR, digital, wiggle, tina and everyone else

Lurking.

mummya Max is a great name! Glad to hear you almost sounding like your old self. You are going to be a fabulous, strong independent mother to two wonderful little boys.

Not much to report here. 6dpo.

Dur, I completely lied. I do have some news. I received the genetic test results on my last miscarriage . She was a girl. And she did have abnormal chromosomes - triploidy. Which meant she had three sets of chromosomes rather than two. So she would never have made it to full term. I was lucky to have miscarried in the first trimester. This particular abnormality is a pure chance thing - and is unlikely to happen again, it is not down to my age.

Rather sad about it, but pleased that it wasn't my body rejecting a healthy baby. Definitely thinking this can't have happened four times - so I'm glad I've got the nk cell diagnosis as well. Just have to consider what kind of antenatal testing to go through if we ever get that far again.

Hey lovely ladies

MummyA well done with everything - DH moving out, DS's birthday and picking a nice strong positive name

digi what mixed news for you - as you say there must be some consolation that there was a problem and your body spotted and did the natures-way thing of miscarrying - but gutting all the same... I know what you mean about the fear of another loss - at the moment my fear of not having another baby (or 2 or 3 :-) ) is still greater than the fear of another loss... but I suspect that the time would come soon...

don't think i've had any more exciting symptoms... Kept jumbling my words over the weekend - saying cooker when i meant fridge, that sort of thing... which might be a sign... Started tucking into seeds (good for omega 3) and it seems to have gone away.... the question is was I low on omega 3 because my body was using it to make a new person's nervous system.... or just one of those things....

I'm away camping this weekend in Finland and will test when i get back next week... then I'll know whether I can drink cider at Glastonbury the following weekend or not!

Thanks again ladies, you all say such nice things

digi that is sad news, knowing the sex must be very hard. I am glad you know about the NK thing now though, this news would have been very confusing before then.

ladyB congrats on getting settled in the new house, and getting internet (always a big achievement!) I think you are quite entitled to feel down and discouraged after all you have been through - who wouldnt? However, I am hoping that like so many other people who have experienced it on these threads, its a case of "always darkest just before dawn" and that just when things look bleakest, lady luck will start shining on you.

battery just spotted you have your 12 weeks scan coming up, I was pretty terrified about that one too, somehow months/years of worrying just mean it becomes your default reaction! Its just one more hurdle to jump though, you have come so far and done so well, fingers crossed it all goes quickly and smoothly. xx

hello to all the new ladies that I havent said hello to yet.

I've just updated the stats but they're looking a bit out of date... Can people look at them and update as necc... I think LadyBee and digi are on a new cycle for instance...

Also do any of our newbies want to join the list? Just pop yourself on :)

I don't ever spend any time on this thread but have a very comfy, worn out seat in the freak-out room.... Had to jump on after seeing MummyA's name... Been ages and was worried about you MummyA.

Both sad and happy to read your news... Really hope you are okay and sending you lots of moral support to keep strong. You're an amazing lady. Max is a beautiful name (my brother is a Max in fact). We're all here for you.

knitter I think ladyb is on a new cycle but I am on cd40 having not ovulated till cd34. Thank goodness for charting...

mummya you had the last crumpet?! . Note to self: log on in morning next time

It is lovely to hear from you again though, I've been thinking of you. Am glad to hear you are getting sorted re own house etc and sounding like you are getting your head around things a bit. Yay for DS's party although v re your H and his family, i do think that's rather pathetic. Big for you.

Sorry baby gave you a scare - I've been there and know that awful feeling, you must have been terrified - glad you managed to get a scan asap and some reassurance. Max is a great name, btw, I love it

digi what difficult news. As you say, it is positive to know that your body wasn't "rejecting" a healthy baby, but still such a lot to take in . I'm keeping everything crossed that this is your month.

knitter things still sound promising to me, will keep my fx for you and others on the 2ww!

Well done to yrmotb and freezing for getting through the booking in appt. yrmotb - it was the pointless 16 week appt for me today, although I managed after a long debate on policy to persuade MW to listen in - picked up the hb straight away . I then completely showed myself up by crying . This was all completely irrational because I had actually picked up the hb myself on the Doppler this morning so there was no logical reason to (a) argue with poor mw about her refusal to listen in or (b) cry with relief when she did!! I can only blame hormones and the sheer irrational terror of the 16 wk appt since last time! Again,

Mmmm strawberries - perfect late night snack - thanks Izzy

Did anyone hear from BBB? There was rumours of scannage today i think... or I could have got that totally wrong again!

Anyone want to look at my [[http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/338746
ff chart]] and tell me what they think is going on? I put in the ovulation line manually as I couldn't find my thermometer earlier in the month! Pretty confident on that date though as I had EWCM and a bit of spotting....