ERPC a week ago and want to start trying again today. Advice please ladies :)

[lilyrose82]

Hi Ladies,

I had an ERPC a week ago today after a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. I have stoppe bleeding, but have mild period cramps still. Emotionally I do feel ready to start trying again now and I really dont want to wait. I fell pregnant first time (I know I was very lucky) and I am hoping that I will concieve quickly again this time. Have any of you ladies got any advice or been through something similar? I know I am not 'over' the loss of my baby, but I have found talking about it has really helped me and looking at the future makes it easier. xx

Hi there, and sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had an erpc for my first missed miscarriage last year. I was told not to have sex for two weeks, I think that is the standard medical advice. I ignored that, not because i wanted to ttc but because i wanted a bit of loving comforts, and did it again after one week. I was not having any pains at that time though and was certain the miscarriage was complete. If you aren't completely sure wait a bit as you don't want to risk getting an infection.
Starting earlier did not make me conceive in any case. It is common not to ovulate in the first cycle after miscarriage. But getting back in the ttc groove might at least be good for your relationship at this difficult time and if you think it will make you feel better then there isn't any harm in it.

Hi, I went to the hospital for my 12 week scan today and have had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. My ERPC is on Fri. What's it like? What did you feel like afterwards and for how long? I'm so disappointed but I did sense there was something wrong beforehand, not that it makes it any easier.

Kat - Thanks for the advice. I agree that I also want to get back into the groove and some love. Didn't feel ready in the end last night! Maybe tonight!!!

MarathonMama - So sorry, you must still be in shock. I know how awful it is. At least you have your ERPC fairly quick (I had to wait a week due to the bank holidays), so you don't have to much thinking time! The ERPC is not that bad. Your put to sleep so you have no idea whats going on. They have to put a tablet inside you an hour before to soften your cervix, but thats ok. The worst part of the day is actually the waiting around. I had to get there for 12 and didn't go in till 5. After the operation I woke up with what felt like bad period pains, which have become less painful over the past week (now pretty much gone). They will give you painkillers so make sure you take them. I was also bleeding off and on for 5 days after. Emotionally, it felt very strange after as I was relieved it was over but had a feeling of emptiness. My pregnancy symptoms went straight away and I found it hard not being pregnant anymore. The only thing that really helped is thinking that I get to try again and experience all that excitment again (we both know we can fall pregnant, but was just very unlucky this time). I would also recommend taking a few days off next week as you will probably not feel up to it on Monday. Good luck and let me know how you get on xx

MarathonMama - So sorry - I have been through this myself and going for the scan and finding your hopes have been dashed is really awful. The ERPC was pretty straightforward - like lilyrose82 says, the worst part is the waiting around. The nurses were very nice to me, though, and though I was a bit sore when I woke up they gave me some painkillers while I was there and after that paracetamol was enough to keep a lid on it. I think I took about a week off work as I was emotionally a bit of a mess, but physically I was fine.

lilyrose82 - We did wait until I'd had a proper period before trying again, but we were very lucky and I got pregnant again that month. This time everything was fine and my daughter has just turned two. I'd say go for it as soon as you feel ready. I did find the experience of mmc very hard, but it didn't stop me wanting to try again - just made me a little warier of getting so excited when I got the BFP.

Good luck to both of you x

Hi, you sound just like me lilyrose82 i conceived in the first month but unfortunately i had a mmc found at 12wk scan and i had to have an ERPC. I really wanted to start trying again straight after my ERPC but the doctor recommended having a period first so i know my bodys back on track. he said if i were to conceive again my endometrial lining may not have enough lining yet, as he took it all out with the pregnancy, and this could cause a miscarriage again. he said if i wait for a period then il know for sure the lining is good enough again. i had one 5 wks later and im ready to try again. 5 wks sounds long to wait but its gone fast, and i really didnt want to risk having another miscarriage. i would recommend waiting too. if you have a natural miscarriage you dont need to wait, but after an ERPC it is advised too. my doc told me after a miscarriage you're really fertile for roughly the next 3mths so the chances of getting pregnant quickly again, for both you and me, is highly likely. so please dont feel the need to rush, before your bodys 100% ready to. good luck x

Hey no1, I wasn't really given much advice do thanks for this. Part of me is desperate to start trying again, but then I know I need to recover to reduce the risk of it happening again. Fingers crossed for the both of us! X