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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Time to see a Doctor?

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Sillyshell · 09/05/2011 14:55

Hi, I just wanted to get other peoples advice really as my DH thinks I'm being overdramatic and we should wait a bit longer.

Have been trying just under a year, really thought we had done it this month but I'm getting belly ache that can only mean one thing! Have tried ovulation sticks for a couple of months, and have packed up smoking and cut down on our drinking. Need to lose about a stone, so dont know if that has that much effect on TTC.

What do you all think, is it time to see our GP?

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mrsden · 09/05/2011 15:09

I think the official advice is to see a doctor after you have been trying for 12 months if you are under 35, or after 6 months if you are over 35. If you have been trying for almost a year, it might be worth going to see the doctor and start the ball rolling. It can't do any harm.

We have been trying for 10 months and if I'm not pregnant this month, I'm going to see the doctor. I'm not in the UK though, and have to pay so they will start investigations at any point. I have charted for a few months because I wanted to be sure that it wasn't just the timing we were getting wrong. I know some people found it took them so long because they were missing ovulation. Now that I know that we have had well timed SWI, I think it's worth me and DH getting checked out.

Good luck, it is so hard waiting. Join our thread ttc for 6 months plus if you want to chat to others in the same waiting game.

joycep · 09/05/2011 15:10

How old are you? I would always suggest getting the ball rolling by seeing a GP and perhaps getting some initial tests. But I think it depends a lot on your age.

eurochick · 09/05/2011 15:19

I agree it's worth getting the ball rolling. You'll want to get your husband on board though, because a lot of doctors won't go very far with you unless your husband gets a semen analysis done. E.g. my GP will only order the initial Day 3 and Day 21 blood tests for me and won't do anything else until hubby gives a sample. I've heard other people on here say the same. It's not a problem for us - the hubby seems fine with it (I think he feels guilty for making me wait so long to try!) - but bear in mind that both of you need to be willing to get this investigated. It makes sense - tests on women can be quite invasive which is not pleasant for the woman and costs the NHS a lot of money - when a semen analysis is fairly simple and 50% of fertility problems are due the bloke anyway.

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Sillyshell · 09/05/2011 15:28

Hi, thanks for your replys. I'm 35, will be 36 in Sept. I think hubby's worrying that it might be him as he had mumps when he was younger and is convinced he's infertile. Typical man burying he's head in the sand, rather than doing something about it!

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eurochick · 09/05/2011 16:12

At your age, then I would say it is definitely time. I am also 35 and my hubby is 36. I went to the GP when starting cycle 5 of "concerted efforts" but had thrown away the contraception a couple of years before. In all that time, I have had one instance of implantation bleeding and a few months of strong pregnancy symptoms in the two week wait, but nothing more. For me, I think that something is up and it is time to figure out what.

kay157 · 09/05/2011 16:57

Hi Sillyshell, if I was you I'd start the ball-rolling now as there is quite a few tests a woman can have and it takes a while for appointments to come through. When your trying to conceive time is everything so pop to your docs and maybe just lie a little about how long you've been trying. It took me 2 years to pluck up the courage to go and another few months for my partner so understand how you feel. Be patient with your man though,i went for some of my tests first and when mine were coming back ok my fella convinced himself he was the problem but his were fine also. It took me ages to get him to go and a few arguements as well. Good luck xxx

eurochick · 09/05/2011 17:38

I've just reread my last post and don't like the "at your age" phrase! Sorry. I wasn't meaning you were old and decrepit or anything. Just that at 35+ the general rule seems to be to see a doctor after 6 months of trying, whereas it's a year for folks under 35!

bigbumum · 09/05/2011 17:42

Yep, get yourself to the Docs.
Dont leave it any longer as it may take ages to get an appointment with a specialist, then for samples and stuff to be collected and processed.

I was like you, and im 40 now and have been trying for 4 years....put it off and put it off going to the Docs. now SO WISH i had gone earlier.

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Sillyshell · 10/05/2011 08:54

Thanks for all your replys. Eurochick dont worry, I feel old and decrepit!! Think a serious chat is in order with my hubby, if there is something wrong with either of us I would rather know now.

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blondieminx · 11/05/2011 22:40

Any sensible GP will get you and your DH checked out at the same time.

Particularly if you are heavier than you'd like to be, PLEASE do ask your doc to also check you for underactive thyroid (I tried for 14 months then got diagnosed and put on tablets for it, got pg v quickly after that!). Underactive thyroid makes it hard to lose weight and other things like poor circulation, changes to your cycle etc.

Good luck.

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