TTC after miscarriage...at 44...!

[Arabica]

I didn't want to muscle in on any of the well-established TTC threads, so this one is new! Arabica here, had long talk with DH and we have decided to try for a baby again, perhaps for the 'last' time. I had a miscarriage last year and didn't feel ready to try again until now--wanted to get the due date (Sept)well out of the way and get fit again. I do feel much younger than 44, but whether my baby-making equipment still works is yet to be seen.

Best of luck Arabica.
I followed your tale and was so sad for you.

I'm sure I bored you with the story of my colleague having a healthy baby just a few months before her 46th birthday.

Arabica - I remember you. I think we both had a m/c at around the same time.
Good luck honey, glad you have decided to try again.
We are still desperately TTC but with no luck. DH has been tested and his little wrigglers don't swim so well so we are going to try and get some treatment in January.
I hope you get a nice early christmas suprise xx

Hi Moondog, I love those stories & they never bore me! My neighbour is about to have her baby and she is 46. She's tired and achey but who isn't after 38 wks. Bella, good luck with the treatment, does that mean you need to have IVF?

Ok then....I know another woman who is about to have her first baby at 44.
(How old is/are your child/children btw?)

Arabica - think we will have IUI to start with and then if that is not successful will move onto IVF/ICSI
mmmm.......had no idea TTC would be this bloody difficult!!

DS was born when I was 39 and 7 months.

Glad to hear that you are going to give it another go. You got pregnant easily last time didnt you? SO chances are that you will again.

Wishing you the best of luck.

I'm terrified already & am not even pregnant yet! But this time around (assuming that I can conceive as quickly as before, which is quite an assumption given my age) hopefully I won't have the bad luck to catch bronchitis/have an asthma attack in the first few weeks.

Oh, the very best of luck to you! And I won't mention this thread to my dh in case I terrify him!
I really do wish you lots of baby-making luck.

Thanks!

Was it the asthma attack/bronchitis that caused you to miscarry last time?

You will get used to feeling terrified, actually I am slightly less terrified than I was a few weeks back.

The consultant said that as far as he could tell it was a 'blighted ovum' ie, the pregnancy never got going at allbut I think it was because I was so ill.
I'm glad to hear that you are feeling a bit less worried now.
If you are in London for Christmas we'll be going to see the candles again--this year the first night falls on Xmas Day!

I would love to see the Chanuka candles again, but cant imagine going on Christmas day. Will talk to DH.

We would probably go when there are a few more candles to look at.

May I join you Arabica?

I'm still going through my miscarriage (another missed one, this time of twins - due to have the ERPC tomorrow), but I do still desparately want another one.

Worried that dh won't want to rey again - he was already a bit reluctant and he might now think that we shouldn't try again becasue of our ages (I'm 44, he's 46) and because he doesn't want me to go thorugh the heartache again.

I'd like to give it one more shot.

I too had ds at 39 (only I was 39 and five months).

The fact that the EPU put us through an extra week of limbo unecessarily (three weeks instead of two becasue they isisited on an extra scan that I didn't need becasue they misread the notes ) doesn't help.

Anyway, I hope both you and I will be able to celebrate "new life" when we are 45!

Glad to hear from you PB and so sorry about what you are going through at the moment. Have been thinking of you lots. I'm trying not to think about the fact that I could be pregnant right this moment (although my gut instinct is that we were too late this month) as it's ages before I can test. Going for a run helped me forget about it for a while.

good luck gals