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Infertility after several C/S?

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sunchild77 · 29/04/2011 21:29

Just wondering if anyone has struggled with being seemingly infertile after having 2 or more c/s?

Did you continue to ttc? or did you stop ttc? did you ever get pregnant again?

How likely is it that the surgeons "messed me up" internally after c/s #2?

You name it, Ive tried it, #3 aint happening and no one seems to give a shit. I m/c nearly a year ago, have short cycles, and convinced myself Id be pregnant by now. I can't believe its taking this long :(

I don't want sympathy! I just need help to try and decide if I should be grateful for what I have (2 dcs) and completely give up the quest for #3. How do you give up on something that you really want?

Thanks, and sorry for the self indulgent post.

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TreeHuggerMum1 · 30/04/2011 08:36

I am with you, been trying since Aug last year for a number 3 with no luck, no 2 was emergency c sec 6 weeks prem and I wonder the same...
My first took a month to conceive and number 2 took 3 months, no sign of a 3rd.
My periods are all over the place and after lots of gp visits its been put down to a hormonal imbalance so they offered to put me on the pill!!! FFS!!
Am considering going in to ask for clomid now...
I know this wont help but at least someone out there can sympathise...
x

LadylissielouofShropshire · 30/04/2011 08:37

how long have you been ttc number 3?

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sunchild77 · 01/05/2011 20:16

I suppose including the m/c last year, over a year now. Last time I saw the Dr (unrelated) she told me to stop stressing ffs! periods last 23 days, they werent like this prior to m/c. Dr not remotely bothered sigh.

I have been pregnant 4 times in my life, 2 m/c (1 early, one later (most recent) and 2 Dcs.

It is actually impossible to "Not stress" about this. But no one will take me seriously. If anyone else tells me to go out and get pissed, have a holiday, relax etc I think I will go mad.

People "expect" me to be pg now, they keep looking at my bulging tum (ITS FAT NOT A BABY) and Im just gutted.

When to quit? I don't know :(

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Bonkerz · 01/05/2011 20:26

I think its still too early to fret about it all. and i dont think its to do with CS.

My story:

1st DS concieved after of celibacy and was an unplanned evening of madness in 2000 (born naturally)
Got married in 2003 to my now husband and started trying for baby straight away. Took a year to concieve despite regular periods BUT we had 2 miscarriages one at 9 weeks in July 2004 and one at 12 weeks in Jan 2005 and we finally had our daughter in Dec 2005 via C section after 2 years of trying.
We knew we wanted one more baby and we started trying in Sept 2006. In July 2008 we went for tests which showed there was no reason for our lack of baby. We decided to give up trying in Oct 2009 and in Aug 2010 i concieved and am due a baby in 9 days time.

After a year of trying you can ask the doctor to have a 21 day blood test to see if you are ovulating.
What from of contraceptive were you on? I had the depo jab and im convinced it has been the main problem for our lack of baby.

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sunchild77 · 01/05/2011 20:36

Not been on hormonal contraception for a long time, infact only prior to pg #1. Ive never been on depo at all.

Dr seems convinced that stress is the root cause of it all. I do get quite stressed easily, and have had a tough year with family, work, illnesses etc. But I dont think i can subscribe to the theory of stress stopping it happening.
I know Im impatient too, but I don't know how long to keep trying. I dont think I can mentally "stop trying" I mean, we are either trying for #3 or we aren't. I can't just see what happens... does that make any sense?!
Am rambling now....

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cheekycurls · 01/05/2011 23:08

sunchild, i believe dr's blame stress too quickly like i told my dr 'people in wars and famine countries have babies u mean to tell me they are not stressed!' yes u guessed it she didn't have an answer to that

also have u heard of ashersman's syndrome?

if not google it (not sure how to post a link)
it's something i want to get tested for as i've never had a problem conceiving till i had an op 2 years ago it's not very well know and i think it's worth anybody who has had an OP, DC or CS who are now struggling to conceive where there was no problem before

MummyAbroad · 02/05/2011 00:55

Hi,

Do you have light periods? I have ashermans syndrome, and have received enormous enormous help from this yahoo group. health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Ashermans/
It is a closed group so you have to sign up and explain why you want to join (this keeps out trolls) but it is FAB. It has been going for 10 years and is more than just a support group. There are lists of recomended doctors and advice about how to get diagnosis, what is the best treatment etc. There are sadly many women on the group who have developed AS from C-secs, there are also lots of success stories too. I consider myself one of them, I got treated by a doctor who specialises in AS in November and got pregnant in February. More of my story here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1080899-Ashermans-Support-Thread-for-those-seeking-diagnosis-getting-treatment-or-TTCing-again-after-All-welcome

serendipity16 · 02/05/2011 08:44

I don't think a year is too long esp as you've said you've also had a m/c in that time.
If you haven't already could you ask to be referred to your local gyne unit?
This is just my opinion but i think its good to go online, look up different things & go to see a doctor and ask to be tested for certain things. I've found that i had to be very pro-active when it came to my infertility & recurrent miscarriages. By that i mean i read that low vitamin D can cause miscarriages so i asked to be tested for it.... and it was very very low. I asked to be tested for blood clotting problems, celiacs disease and other things. I also asked for clomid which my consultant agreed too, also mentioned ashermans syndrome but he dismissed that.

I went from having no problems getting pregnant to having infertility and then 4 recurrent miscarriages & then an ectopic. At the time of my tube being removed because of the ectopic it was found that scar tissue from my c-sections had made my left tube & bowels attach to each other. They then said that they believed i hadn't had early miscarriages but had had 5 ectopics which had 'aborted' themselves (don't like that term). 3 months later i fell pregnant & my son is now nearly 6mths old...... so i guess there was something very wrong with my left tube which was causes the eggs to get trapped there.

How long is your luteal phase?

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sunchild77 · 02/05/2011 15:35

Thank you all. Im Sorry to hear that there are so many of you with problems after c/s. I mean I know they tell you all about the problems you can encounter with fertility after c/s but I honestly never thought about Ashermans. I am definitely going to research it now.

Luteal phase is definately on the short side too - I reckon about 8-9 days.
But again Dr not remotely bothered by this. She reckons as long as I am having regular periods, there is no midcyle bleeding, pain etc. Then all I need to do it stop stressing.

Thank you all for your input.

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MummyAbroad · 02/05/2011 16:25

sunchild if you do have Ashermans, it can be difficult to know what your "real" luteal phase is because you may have a narrower cervix or scar tissue in the lower uterus which prevents blood from exiting quickly - so your period starts, but you dont know it for a few days as nothing comes out at first.

A really good place to start AS research is www.ashermans.org

hope you manage to find some answers

serendipity16 · 02/05/2011 21:13

Have you considered taking vitamin B6 to help with your short luteal phase?
Mine was around 10 days and when i was taking it, it added a few more days.
Its important that you get it sorted imo because if its only 9 days its not given an egg time to implant etc.

Doctors esp GPs can be so dismissive about infertility and miscarriages. One told me to stop googling. I just think that its better to have lots of ideas of what the problem could be and to be checked for it than to sit back and do nothing or trust the doctors. If you think something could be related to your infertility, research it, know what you need to say and go on at the doctors to look into it for you.

I really hope everything works out well for you.

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