Friend starting IVF

[TheGashlycrumbTinies]

I have a really close friend who has just undergone her first round of IVF. I had a message from her today to say it hadn't been successful. I really want to say the right thing to her, but not quite sure how to put it. Have obviously sent our love to both of them but this doesn't seem enough.

She is unfortunately a plane or ferry trip away, so can't get to see her in person.

Any ideas would be appreciated.

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I think you just need to let her know that you're sorry and you're there for any kind of rant she may want.

Saying "there's always next time" or " there's still a chance" etc are generally not appreciated in that situation. She needs to be allowed to grieve for what hasn't happened.

She probably doesn't actually want to dwell on the failure and although it would be good to know you care, if she was anything like me, she'd not want to talk about it. There's nothing talking can change and you end up trying to make the well-meaning friend feel better instead of vice versa.

That's my 2 pennies worth anyway.

Thanks for that Ruggettee, I did say feel free to phone and rant, and that understand if she wants to "go to ground" for a while, something we both do in times of stress, so we both understand this.

I just know she will be feeling pretty isolated. :(