Straw poll. Does the sex have to be good to get you updiffed?

[ElmMum]

Reason for asking... I got pregnant with DD on honeymoon and the second time (ended in MC) on a brilliant holiday without DD (i.e. sex was good both times).

Now we're TTC and it's all very routine and not bringing me to crashing, tumultuous orgasms (cue waves washing limply to the shore..). A friend who had fertility problems tells me that the times she's got pregnant (two DC, two MC) were all good sessions, as it were, rather than just the routine norm.

Tbh, this makes me a bit despairing! It's hard enough to DTD under these circs anyway, never mind having to swing from the chandeliers every time!!!!

Tell me it's not so, ladies!

I God I hope not, can just about muster up the will to take my pyjamas off & have routine sex at the moment!!!!!
Adds this to the growing list of things to worry about while TTC.

Er.. nope. Women even get pregnant from rape don't they?

Hi Elmmum , I asked this question a while ago because my GP friend told me that orgasms were really important in getting pregnant....it means good sex and helps the little swimmers on the journey apparently. I got pregnant last year really quickly when everything was exciting and we were having fun ttc and I didn't know anything about anything really. I m/c'd that pregnancy and 9months on still nothing...Now sex seems a bit more pressured as thats all I'm thinking about. I can never hear the waves crashing or bells ringing on those key days and to be frank it has become fairly dull.... But god knows whether this is really the problem in not getting updiffed. I have friends who never have orgasms and they haven't had a problem!
DH and I went on holiday last month for the first time in years, hoping the change of scenery would be the key....which prompted AF to come and join the party for the majority of the holiday.

@Butterbur and Lockets... I realise that. What I mean is, if you're having trouble TTC as I am, do you think it helps if the woman has an orgasm?

@Joycep - sorry to hear about your MC. It's miserable, isn't it? I don't suppose not having an orgasm will ever be 'the' reason for not getting updiffed but I do wonder if it would help. I'm sure I saw a documentary years ago when they put a camera inside a woman during sex and showed the cervix dipping down into the semen as she had an orgasm.

oh elm ...it's bloody miserable. I think it must help to orgasm and my own gp last week told me to put it to the back of my mind because she said it was extrordinary how many people get pregnant when she refers them to a fertility clinic...she said people obviously just relax...Well cheers doc for the most annoying advice!

Nope, when you're doing the whole temperature taking, oh hell I'm ovulating, screw me now thing, it's often not that great. Works though.

I tried to get updiffed (love that term BTW) for ages, we had clomid and it didn't work. We moved to a different country, put all thoughts of pregnancy out of our minds got absolutely bladdered and I got updiffed. Can't remember whether I orgasmed, do remember vaguely living room, kitchen, bathroom and bedroom being involved.

It definitely helps if you orgasm, especially after the man. During an orgasm the cervix elongates and dips down, hopefully (if you're ttc) into a pool of sperm.

Nope, not in my exp or my friends who recently conceived when both teams had norovirus!!

I refuse to don't believe it. Anyway aren't there different types of orgasm and only the non-clitoral one involves the cervix dipping down and sucking up sperm like a hungry ant eater.

OOOOH just saw this thread and maybe this is true, I got preg the last 2 times in good times. For #1 I had been on holiday with my mum without hubby and got pregnant the day I cam back we dtd lots of times and for #2 we were on holiday in Ibiza. Now TTC#3 and considering booking a holiday to help us along the way :)

I am 10 weeks pregnant after very bad sex. Not that DH or I are terrible at it but it came after a mmc, a year of infertility, surgery, hormone treatment and then massive pressure from the doc who told us our best chance was in the first three months after surgery (I had Ashermans Syndrome) cue lots and lots of stress and bad sex, oh and I used Pre-seed. Maybe that made up for the non dipping cervix?

Sorry mummy you've had such a rough time :(

congrats on the pregnancy though :)

Thanks, its (mostly) all behind me now. I am sure this little one will be worth the wait

now back to your shagging everyone