Anyone depressed about TTC and fancy a chat/moan?

[LoveACuppaTea]

I've just hit 6 months :( xx

I am on the sixth cycle trying properly since my MC and it feels like bloody ages + my MC due date is coming up so feel really sad now.

However, I know that six months isn't that long to be trying, (still sucks!) it just seems worse as A) I could have been about to have a baby and B) we started trying last July.

I am now in my 2WW so fingers crossed, how about you?

We've been TTC since October... yep everyone says 6 months is nothing but 6 months is 6 months! Thats half a year!

Im due AF any day now. Got my sore breasts (tmi!) and my cramps on so it will be here in the next few days! Been having a really bad day today - been surrounded by babies - not easy! Good luck to you xx

15 months and counting. I do remember 6 months seemed like a long time then..said to Dh last night, came off pill Christmas 2009 now we're hoping for a baby in 2012!

Ah yes....and I refer you to the post I just made here :)

We have been trying for 19 months. I'm 39 and not eligible for IVF (don't know if I would have wanted to go through that, but you know how it is when you're denied the choice!). I know how frustrating it is and have been depressed about it, still do but manage to feel good most of the time.

I hope today's been better, good luck (and to everyone else too) :)

its been a year here. ds was conceived first month, this time around, nothing. all tests normal, just about to get referred to sub fertility clinic.
this place and the feck off with your babydust thread is a lifeline sometimes.

it will happen though. because it has too. please don't give up hope. my friend had tried for years unsuccessfully, then got her dd through ivf. she then got pg again with her ds naturally when she was 40, so there's another happy story for you.

9 months for me, totally fed up with it all. I keep telling myself it will happen but I'm finding it hard to believe it now. Everyone I know in real life seems to get pregant as soon as they start trying (or even if not trying) so I find it so comforting to know that there are others going through this too. These threads help me a lot, there is a nice bunch of us on the TTC 6 months plus thread so feel free to join us if you want a chat and moan.

im due AF today or tomorrow - can feel it coming :( woe is me! Good luck to everyone! Im feeling a bit better this month as I have banned myself from taking PG test till at least FORTY days since last AF! (Thats next tuesday btw!!) xx

Hi it's been 11 months of TTC #2 for me. I have been to see my GP and have started the ball rolling with 21 day blood test next week. DH has to have his sperm analysed so we'll just take it from there.

Like MrsD says, it's nice to have an outlet for our moaning and frustration and more often than not jealousies that everyone seems to be falling pregnant without seeming to be even trying!

Rant over.....

I'm fed up! Ttc since June. Finally got pg in oct. Chemical pg! Pg again in dec, mc at 11 weeks. 3 week cycles since then, no idea if I'm even ovulating and if I am then there's no way there's time for implantation. Scan shows lovely healthy ovaries, dh's sperm is ok, no bloods done yet because gp says it'll settle down. Sigh. I'm day 14 today but no positive opk this month so can't see it happening. And it's raining!

have yous read taking charge of your fertility? Its a really good book! Very helpful and funny too xx

Yup, read it. Like it. Still not pregnant.

I haven't read it yet, if I don't have success this month then I will be going to the docs as I have been irregular and to get the ball rolling, I am supposed to have success within 6 months.Pah.

I am TTC #2 as well, always mysterious when it was so easy the first (and in my case second time round, although I didn't get my happy ending)

What does the book say that I am not doing already anyway?

TTC#1 here.
Came off the Pill last May, had a period in June then nothing since. Just been diagnosed with PCOS and now booked in to local hospital to have my tubes checked out before they prescribe Clomid.

Thoroughly fed up of the amount of time it has taken to get this far - first raised concerns with GP last September and was told to wait a few more months.

If one more person asks when DH and I are going to have a baby I will rip their arm off and beat them over the head with it whilst screaming "We're farking well trying!"

purple i remember you from a mc thread, im previously mrsb33, also had an mc, my mc was my first baby and have now been ttc for 6months, this being my 7th..... Starting to get slightly worried as my af seems to be getting further and further apart, starting at 28days now at 32 days!!! So frustrating!!!

Well I guess this thread isn't for you anymore is it Loveacuppa!!! Congrats!

But, for me I couldn't have seen this thread on a better day - I am treating myself to a full-on, self-indulgent day of moping, sulking, it's-not-fairs and why-mes.

I am only on Cycle 4 (yes I know, I know, slap me with a kipper!) and that's not what bothers me - it's the fact that this cycle and the previous one have been completed wasted due to total lack of shagging at the appropriate times. Last month, OH was away with work and this month he has had, ahem, performance issues (likely culprits = work-related stress plus pressure of needing to perform in order to get a baby).

Therefore my poor little egg has been left to wither and die without even a chance of meeting a lovely little sperm. It's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO frustrating. ARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG.

And, just to kick me when I'm down, I just saw a very happy mother and baby group enjoying a lovely picnic in the sun with their cherubic 6 month-olds. I swear that they were all looking at me and saying "So you want to get pregnant but can't even manage to have sex at the right times, eh? You don't have a hope in hell". Bitches. (Joking, obviously)

OH is out at a work thing this evening, so I think I will cuddle up with a lovely bottle of merlot and had a stonking headache tomorrow to my list of things to piss me off.

Sorry for this - I know that there are people in a worse position than me and it has only been 4 months but, quite frankly, the PMA just isn't helping me today.

Pah.

*add a stonking headache. Obviously.

(Hello btw Cavemum. Hope ERTD is being a bit nicer to you today)

Big contests OP!!!

Hi Imps, feel free to wallow away! It is so frustrating when things are out of your control. I'm wondering how DH and I are going to time things when we actually get down to the active TTC. With him working away from home Sunday night-Friday afternoon it doesn't leave much of a window of opportunity!

I meant "congrats" obviously!!

Congrats LoveACuppa!

I feel the need to moan, currently on CD 47 and nada. Have had some very long cycles since my MC in May last year (9 weeks, Clomid pregnancy). I took a break from Clomid this month so maybe shouldn't expect AF any time soon, but it's still annoying. I have 6 more months' worth of Clomid to use as there is no longer a fertility nurse at our hospital so just before mine left, she prescribed me another 6 months' worth, so I have to use them wisely. DH seems to think once a month is frequently enough to conceive which is one reason I haven't wasted any Clomid this month. (Erm, not when you have fertility issues it's not. Grrr) It may be a little while before he catches up with me in the broodiness stakes though. Argh!! I seem to oscillate between frantically broody and utterly fed up at having no luck and wanting to stop ttc altogether. Anyone else in that boat?

Hello, can i join you? I've been ttc since sept 09 when i had a mc. What is really difficult is my H works abroad and i only see him every fortnight for 4 days. So we have missed many of my fertile times.

We have been going through tests to see if anything is wrong, but all seems normal except I'm 37 and the doctor said each month that means only a 5-7% chance of success.

Just got AF today and feeling really low about it. As time goes on it feels harder and harder. Does anyone have any tips about managing your emotions at this time of the month?

In some ways i am really lucky as we already have a nearly 5 yr old son who is great. But we badly want one more and a little sibling for our son. Of course nearly all his friends have brothers or sisters so i end up hanging out with these mums and babies, trying to be really low key about my feelings. :(