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The whole world and his dog are pg with a 2nd, 3rd or even 4th baby, everyone except for ME!!!!

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pigletmania · 02/04/2011 22:21

We have a gorgeous dd who is 4, and have been ttc for about 2.5 years, it seems that we are the only ones who have only one dc, everyone that I know who initially has had one dc, now has 2 or 3. Of course I am thankful for our wonderful dd and grateful for such a blessing, and that others do not have any but its making me Angry and Sad. Just found out that one of my good friends is expecting dc 3, I could just cry. Had 2 MC over the course of us TTC, the most recent one about 2 months ago.

Its not fair that some people have 5 children whilst others have none or 1. Sorry have to rant feel so Sad. Will have to go for the day 21 blood test when I start a new cycle, so will wait for period to come and cound down.

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gardenpixie · 03/04/2011 09:31

Hi piglet sorry you are having such a tough time and Sad to hear about your MCs.

You're not the only one who's not pg though, honestly! Don't apologise for ranting though, this is definitely the place to get it off your chest.

I don't really have any words of advice etc but wanted to say hello and offer you a Brew to see if that helps?

You will get there, you will you will Smile

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pigletmania · 03/04/2011 09:46

thanks garden Smile takes nice hot brew from garden and takes a big swig. I just needed to rant, better to do it here than upset somebody in RL

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PinkCustard · 03/04/2011 11:13

I'm not preg either!!

Although absolutely everyone else that I know is (or has just added a 2nd or 3rd to their brood). I desperately want a second child too (although, like you, feel eternally grateful for gorgeous DS and can't begin to imagine how heartbreaking it must be to struggle with TTC DC1). It's shit, and unexpected, and upsetting, and totally UNFAIR but we just have to keep on trying......You're not alone.

BrownB · 03/04/2011 11:22

Piglet - it fucking sucks doesn't it? My good friend is about to have her second. I was pregnant at the same time as her when she was pregnant with her first. She had a healthy baby, and I had a miscarriage. I got pregnant again when she got pregnant with her second. I had another miscarriage, and she's about to have another baby (and my fingers are crossed for her that all will go well). She's just wonderful, but I just don't see her that much any more. And a large part of that is that it just makes me so wistful and sore Envy to see her happy family when I am so desperate to have my own. Personally, I find that drinking gin when my period arrives is a Good Thing.

ps - Happy Mother's Day

brokenbarrenbrook · 03/04/2011 11:26

No, you're not alone and rant away. I'm not pregnant either. We're the only couple out of our group of friends and family (and everyone else I seem to encounter!) that doesn't have kids. I've had 4 mc and have no DC. It's shit! It's tough staying positive that it will happen but it will for all of us. I hope!

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woody17 · 03/04/2011 11:31

I'm TTC #1 but most of my close friends either have children or are pregnant. I sometimes feel left out (not because of anything anyone does) but because I can't share in the experience. I haven't been through what everyone is talking about etc. I feel like my thoughts etc don't count/matter as I haven't got a child. I know my turn will come...

randomimposter · 03/04/2011 12:06

Agree, piglet. It's just very hard :(

Am starting to reconcile myself to not having another child, as after 3MMCs and at bastard ancient 4sodding3 the odds are not on my side.

brokenbarrenbrook · 03/04/2011 13:30

brownb crossed posts here, here.

jolls snogs, I loves you I does.

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pigletmania · 03/04/2011 13:49

Oh BrownB, gives her a big hug and a nice hot Brew, its people like you that I think about and feel eternally thankful for my wonderful dd. Have you had any investigations or proceedures. My dh has said that we already have a wonderful dd and if we only ever have one so be it, that is something I will have to come to terms with and appreciate what I do have.

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pigletmania · 03/04/2011 13:51

I will have a ceremonial throwingout giving away of all baby things soon so that we can start getting on with our life and enjoy dd instead of what might never happen.

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pigletmania · 03/04/2011 13:52

Offering everyone on here a nice big Wine and just wollowing and ranting together away from any pg women

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tassisssss · 03/04/2011 13:59

So sorry. I've been there. Had a baby, tried for 2 years to have another (had 2 miscarriages in that time) and it felt like everyone I knew was pregnant with a 2nd in that time. It's hard. We eventually had a 2nd and then our 3rd appeared before we'd even started trying so you never know what's round the corner!!

Hope things get better for you all soon.

BoattoBolivia · 03/04/2011 14:01

Don't rush into getting rid of all your baby things piglet. It took us 2 years to have dd. Started trying again when she was about 2.... Nothing. Went through all the crap emotions, including getting cross with the people who said, just be greatful you have one! When she was about 7, started giving everything away, binned a whole black sack of old bottles and assorted feeding stuff, and discovered I was pregnant about 3 months later!! I was 7 weeks gone before I even thought about testing, as my cycle is fairly irregular anyway.
Now have a beautiful 9 year old dd and a gorgeous 1 year old ds! (and I'm 42, so it really was a shock!!)

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pigletmania · 03/04/2011 15:26

Thats great Boatto Smile so there is hope

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Lambzig · 04/04/2011 10:12

I know how you feel and you have my sympathy. My DD is 13 months and we had her after ttc for 10 years and a lot of fertility treatment. Four of my friends have recently announced their 2nd pregnancy and I am desperately jealous. I would love another baby, but my DH says that he cant face more treatment. Its hard when it seems so easy for some people.

Dont throw your baby things out (unless you are like me and think that the minute you throw them out it will happen).

Karbea · 04/04/2011 20:23

I'm not either, I'd love a baby Sad most of my friends have one or two and everyone at work is either pregnant, on mat leave or just back.

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