Job security putting me of ttc

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Me and DP are planning on TTC within the next couple of months. We feel ready emotionally and financially, well as ready as you ever can be.

But I am terrified of what would happen if one of us were to lose our job. I know you shouldn't really worry about something which is out of your control but I think about it a lot and it is putting me off wanting to start trying.
He is very unlikely to lose his job (works for large multi-national company) but I do worry about my job security.

The company I work for is going through a really tough period and there have been murmerings of possible redundancies if things don't pick up but nothing definite.

But we have waited a long time to ttc and I am so broody.
Do I crack on with it or hold off for a while and see what happens?
Does anyone else have the same worries?

How old are you both?

We're only 24 and 26 so I know we have plenty of time but we have been together for 8 years now and been talking about it seriously for the last couple of years.

I know how hard it is to make a decision, I have had redundancy hanging over my head for the last 18 months. We decided that we would not let work rule our lives. We started TTC in January and are just putting extra savings away at the moment in case the worse should happen.

It's a very tough decision especially in uncertain times. I've had to deal with the same decision. I'm older at 31 and Dh at 30 and we've put of ttc for the past couple of years to get to where we want to in our careers (well me mainly as I'll be the one giving birth) and doing the things we want like travel and fixing the house up. We agreed about 18months ago that we'd start to ttc properly in the summer 2010. Then the summer came and massive changes in my organisation where annouced in the next 2-3 years, with potential redudancies and at the end of the 3 years my organisation closing. I had to decide, put off ttc so I could be around at work and make sure I could secure myself a job in the restructre, or ttc anyway and hope for the best. For us, we felt we'd waited long enough so threw caution to the wind. We're lucky enough to be able to survive off dh salary (with sone serious tightening of the belt) which was a big help. My career is very important to me and I've work hard to get to were I have, so it's depressing to think I might lose it. But right now starting a family is more important. I feel even more so about this now too as I got pg in oct last year and mc in dec. I'm pg again (just) - 3 / 4 years ago though, it might have been a different story. Your young, so if secruring your job is more important wait, but if you want a family, I say go for it. One thing I've learnt is there is never a perfect time. I waited till the right time, and in the end. It's probably the worst time job wise.

Sorry for long waffling post, just think it helps to share experiences. Good luck xx

I'm starting TTC in January next year. We have planned it all through with work and we will have finished paying off a loan we have at the end of this year (for DP's business), and will also be married this summer. If I get pregnant straight away, then I will be 29 and DP 34 when we become parents for the first time.

I dont think there is ever a right time, but time is your side. I have found it has helped with the broodiness to have a fixed date of TTC (9 months away), starting on making the preparations, putting money to one side, new carpet for spare bedroom, some improvements to garden etc. I like to think that we are busy nesting this year.