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Oh for the love of sweet baby jesus...come the f**k on.....

79 replies

cherrychoo · 31/03/2011 21:12

Im bored now, bored i tell you....

Ive been reasonable and patient but now some one is taking the piss.

So SICK of waiting.

When is it gonna happen?

Is it gonna happen?

Whhhhhhen????

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piratecat · 04/04/2011 23:19

not sure, but i guess you just have to believe lol!

BarbiesBeaver · 05/04/2011 12:17

After nearly three years I don't think relaxing and screwing in every room is going to help my crap eggs work somehow or stop me miscarrying. Lots of hormones injected into me might help a bit.

PatientGriselda · 05/04/2011 12:28

What are you taking, bb? My referral is somewhere between my GP and the hospital at the moment, and hopefully will result in a fabulous hormone cocktail avec un cherry on top.

BarbiesBeaver · 05/04/2011 13:13

I'm on my third go at IUI Griselda but my first go was cancelled before we got to the insemination bit due to lack of response. I did 6 months of Clomid before that though.

Do you know what problems you are up against yet? Best of luck and well done for getting the ball rolling. I really hope it's something simple to put right. PM me anytime if you want to know more or hunt me down on the BESH threads.

OracleInaCoracle · 05/04/2011 13:28

i will never forget going to see my cons after our 10th mc. we had been ttc for nearly 4y (iirc) and he suggested we go on holiday. I leaned forward and said in my most dangerous voice "we have lost 11 babies in 4y. we have had 7 holidays in that time including breaks in sil's caravan. ive had enough blood taken to satisfy a pack of vampires. every doctor in this bloody hospital could find their way out of my uterus with his eyes closed. Ive lost all of my dignity and hope and its still not happened, what else have you got?"

PatientGriselda · 05/04/2011 13:31

PCOS on my part, but have made some progress on that front with weightloss and metformin, so at least I actually have cycles worth te name now (have gone from 180ish day cycles to 30-40ish). But still no sodding baby.

I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriage(s?). What is next for you? How many more IUI sessions can you have?

I do occasionally lurk on BESH, being extremely evil and selfish, and apparently barren too. One day I will screw up my courage and say hello!

BarbiesBeaver · 05/04/2011 13:52

We're a bunch of softies really (but don't tell anyone). Don't be scared to pile in if you fancy it, if we never had new people joining us it would be a lonely little thread which would have fizzled out ages ago. You've made an excellent start with the weightloss, that's really positive. I can have two more IUI's after this one and one shot of IVF hopefully. Overall the NHS have been bloody brilliant, you just need to keep yourself informed as to what is going on so you can keep on top of things and be involved with your own treatment.

Lissie that is beyond hurtful that a professional would say that to you. Are you seeing anyone about it at the moment?

OracleInaCoracle · 05/04/2011 13:56

I lurk in the hut. its just a place where you can have no hope and not be upbeat about it. I feel that Im too long in the tooth for the other threads now, noone wants to hear my story because there isnt a happy ending!

BB, I still see my RMC cons, but he is shite. doesnt believe in immunology testing, despite my mc's always being preceded by a temp spike and illness. I did see a specialist privately but couldnt afford the testing, and the NHS list is too long.

PatientGriselda · 05/04/2011 14:04

Oh lissie that's horrible that you feel no one wants to hear your story. I wish I had some helpful advice on how to get the testing you want, but I am such a beginner at this long game stuff. Or that I could win the lottery and share it out to deserving ttc-ers for such things.

OracleInaCoracle · 05/04/2011 14:10

its ok, theres just a point where you stop feeling optimistic.

PatientGriselda · 05/04/2011 15:06

Wine ahoy, then :)

(hoping that's not misjudged in any way)

Ruthie32 · 05/04/2011 21:49

I'm with LankyLegs. Would LOVE to be pregnant but as I'm not I'm going to try and focus on the positives of not having kiddliwinks, starting with spending Saturday afternoon in a pub garden (weather permitting!)! Wine

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cherrychoo · 05/04/2011 22:16

Im just fucked off with all the effort no results.
I mean, every time i change the sheets, i think that i dont want to mess them up.....for feck all.

So sex every other day from day 4 till day 24 last month..nothing, same this month. I even get ovulation pains ffs!

Sigh.

Lissie, im intersted cos we kinda in a similar boat, you with your 11 and me with my 5 mcs,,,,not that i am competing you understand. But i dont know any one in rl who has had multiple mcs, just me. Have no one who "knows" iyswim.

Some come and chat to me as much as you like. (tbh im hiding out here as i have posted my 1st ever contraversial post and i am goonna get one HELL of an arse kicking Smile )

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BarbiesBeaver · 06/04/2011 09:58

Lissie I was thinking about you this morning. Can you get a second opinion or change hospitals to see a different consultant? I am frustrated that nothing is being done for you. Could you afford to open a savings account to put away a little bit each month to fund private investigations? Sorry if all this sounds patronising, I want something to be done for you.

OracleInaCoracle · 06/04/2011 10:53

cherry, i know what you mean. when i tell people that we've had several mc's they raise their brows and say "oh, i know this woman who..." it makes me feel like the exception to the rule. are you under a rmc cons?

BB, Ive seen 3 different consultants, but dh only works PT (he cares for me) so saving is pretty tough. I go back to shitty cons in may and have printed off a load of evidence to present to him to try to push him to try chicago testing.

BarbiesBeaver · 06/04/2011 11:49

Good luck lissie, sounds like you are on the case. If I win the lottery in the mean time I will let you know.

OracleInaCoracle · 06/04/2011 11:53

thanks, one thing Ive learnt is that you have to be pretty aggressive and keep pushing!

and Grin

LankyLegs · 07/04/2011 08:38

Cherry and lissie really bloody sorry to hear about all your mc's - I do not know how you girls do it. It must be so difficult. Hope you both get some answers about it soon ladies.

I am now officially onto month 18 and cycle 20 of TTC with not even 1 BFP to show for my efforts. It is shite - but now focussing on the potential of a bbq this weekend..... with lots of Wine. Am with you ruthie might be hot footing it to the pub to watch the grand national.

JRsandCoffee · 07/04/2011 17:55

Hello ladies

Cherry and lissie hang in there, sounds soul destroying, I so admire your patience.

Ruthie and lanky I'm with you on the pub, have even started a sodding sweepstake!!!

Interesting re the advice to be agressive and keep pushing, I always don't want to feel like a moaning, whining pain in the ass so I smile and take whatever they give me......currently another two months of Clomid which will have to be take when my DH returns from four months away at the end of summer. By which time I'll be 37 and counting. And it will probably take another three months to even get an appointment on the NHS at which we'll probably be told some consoling rubbish and given a bit more Clomid and another swimmer test which will confirm again that things 'aint ideal but not catastrophic' and 'I've known plenty of couples concieve with far worse' etc. So a bit more time will pass and then I will be getting on for 38. And then they'll probably tell me I'm too old............ AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH, I can so see it, clear as day but my DH can't. And then I think Oh stuff it, mortgage the dog and buy some impractical horse with psycho tendancies because it's cheap enough to afford.... and then my sensible brain goes "oh but what if you get pregnant??" Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh, come the F**k ON!!!

So fed up I even forget to take the folic acid.......

Oh thank you for letting me rant!!

Ruthie32 · 07/04/2011 18:52

I never remember to take the damn folic acid.

I'm not expectig enyone to give me any words of wisdom on this how do you get excited about having to do the do so often! I bought stockings and suspenders a few months ago which helped for a month at least Grin

PatientGriselda · 07/04/2011 19:43

I hide my folic acid when friends visit and then usually forget to get it out again for weeks at a time.

Has anyone else found that the sunny weather has given things a boost on the sex front? Over winter I was getting very (quietly) grumpy about having to engage in activities that let the cold air in under the covers, when all I wanted to do was cuddle down in my pyjamas and thermal bedsocks :o

PatientGriselda · 07/04/2011 19:54

jrsandcoffee (what are jrs, by the way??), I found it quite helpful to think of the doctor appointments like a business meeting, with a really clear idea of what I wanted to happen as a result of them. It made me behave more professionally when I have been pushing for things and I feel like the doctor responded quite well to me.

Admittedly I haven't had to push too hard for anything yet, but I guess that will come once I get to the next stages. But it does mean I dont feel like I'm moaning when I'm pushing for things, which I think is quite important for my state of mind. Otherwise I could easily start believing that I wasn't entitled to any help. If that makes any sense.

JRsandCoffee · 07/04/2011 19:58

Suspenders........this will make you chuckle........

Recently a friend of mine in the throes of new passion got her suspender belt out, the object of her affections had limited enthusiasm........This suprised me so I asked some questions regarding age/ style etc..... apparently they still had a name tape in them......I suggested that this might be the problem, "really????" she said, genuinely suprised.......oh god I laughed..... And no, I don't know what the bloody hell she was doing in her suspender belt that required a name tape!!!

JRsandCoffee · 07/04/2011 20:00

Griselda Thank you for your advice, indeed, very easy to be talked into believing you aren't worthy!!!

PatientGriselda · 07/04/2011 20:15

I hope it wasn't patronising or irritating. One thing I've learnt rapidly through this is how irritating well meaning advice can be! Someone once advised me to have sex around the time of ovulation. My nostrils are still flared in disbelief!