IVF not working - feeling dispondant

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Can anyone offer me hope? 3 failed IVF treatments and im feeling sad coming up to mother's day... Im asking is there anything else I could try / consider and if I gat get some hope from anyone who has had a similar experince??

I am just back from my consultant who "cant understand why Im not getting pregnant"

Bloods are OK
Hormones are OK
sperm is ok
collecting good number of eggs
getting good quality embryos
lining is thick

I know I have low fertility and they have maxed my drug levels through short protocol. This has produced more eggs and a good embryo conversion.

Consultant has suggested an hysteroscopy to double check lining and then to consider auto immune drugs...

Hi Ya,

I hope you're feeling okay, must be a tough time of year. Although all is not lost.

Im sure you know now the IVF just doesn't work for everyone, and if it fails your get thinking that it just isn't going to happen for you. (trust me i know the feeling) Several years ago I went through exactly what you've described above and had given up hope, so just got on with things and put it out of my mind.
Low and behold 2 years later, my DS arrived and lit up my world.
I have thought almost daily about what changed, what did I do diffrent? and i realised that I think the biggest thing was that I just stop 'trying so hard'. I was putting so much pressure on myself and on my partner.
It sounds silly (and almost impossible to do delibratly) but once we became contempt with ourselves, it happened.

So i guess all i am saying is never get yourself down, don't ask yourself to many questions, don't put to much pressure on yourself and above all never give up hoping.

I truly wish you all the best. Good Luck :)

Massive sympathies. Have you tried blastocyst transfer? Meant to have a better implantation rate but not always advertised as an option (this in itself makes me massively cynical about the ivf industry).

Blastocyst transfer is not the be-all and end all- it does have a better success rate per transfer but the drop out rate can be huge..ie not everybody gets blastocysts to replace so the success rate per cycle started ends up the same as day 2 or day 3 transfer. It is best suited to younger women who want to avoid a multiple pregnancy.
I'm so sorry you have had 3 failed cycles. I wish I had a magic answer for you...it sounds like your consultant still has some ideas so I just want to wish you luck.

I'd HIGHLY recommend Dr.Alan Beer's "Is my body baby friendly?" which is about what could be going wrong if you have repeated IVF failure or mc. It absolutely changed the way we dealt with our issues and as a result chose a clinic which addresses some of the immunological factors which might be happening.
Also, how does your clinic's success rate compare to the rest of the country? It might be necessary to change clinic. The success rates are on the HFEA website - apologies if you know this already. X

Yes that's clear in the figures for blastocyst transfer....but also, it is sometimes not brought up at reviews. I had to ask and I question why.
We had a good number of embryos and no obvious reason for failure other than that it's a numbers game.
I did get pregnant and have not needed to return to the clinic.

After 5 attempts we were ready to give up. We changed clinic (despite being at a well regarded clinic already, I just wanted to change everything and get a fresh approach) and we used something called assisted hatching. I dont know if that is something you have looked at. There was no particular reason for us to think it would work but it was offered because we had failed in our previous treatments.

3 attempts is tough but at the time we were trying (quite a few years ago as my DC are at primary school now!) the clinic showed us statistics which indicated that a reasonable number of women had success right up to attempts 4 and 5 but after 5 they tended to find that there was low success rate for those people. (does that make sense?) Those stats might be out of date now. Even so, I am living proof of success on cycles 6 and 7.

I wish you the best of luck.