I cant switch of these feelings

[Tooodlepip]

Basically, I am 27, I have two lovely sons aged 8 and 4, I m dying for another baby, I dont know why I feel so strongly about this, and it seems to be getting worse, day in and day out. I started crying the a shopping centre fgs.

Whats stopping me, well I dont feel like I'm allowed, I am on benefits and it seems to be a sore point in the media these days, but why can't I make these feeling go away.

I'm a carer for my ill parents and have been on incapacity for 7 years due to depression. I am now on a back to work scheme and with my ou graduation next year things seem very positive on the work front. What the hell is wrong with me.

I have a coil in but thats due out this year, the thought of getting another mirena in makes me want to run, hormones do not agree with me I was thinking that me and partner would just use condoms for a while.

He is suppose to be getting work, which would mean I wouldnt feel so guilty as he could bring the income in and I could maybe try and get something part time.

I know I should wait a year or so just to try and get off the benefits and see how my graduation go's etc, whats wrong with me?????

Oh and apart from my life circumstances ill parents etc, I feel like I am on top of the depression and I don't take any medication, should be off incapacity soon

Babies and lack of resources do not mix. You may get even more depressed if you are not able to give the new baby all that it needs. Just wait till you are off benefits, get a job or partner is working before ttc. The broody feelings may not go away until u get preggy but do what is right for your family and wait. They deserve better.

agree with giggles, broodiness isnt a good enough reason for having a baby that you cant support. wait til the time is right and dont put yourself or family under more pressure.

Hi, yes I agree practicality goes a long way but it isn't everything! I got pregnant whilst my husband was on long term sick (13 months) and I was only working part time. We had and still have lots of money worries but we also have a beautiful baby that makes things worthwhile. I would agree though it has made me a bit depressed and still struggle on a daily basis but you do cope, you find a way. The only thing I would say is that is impacts the other children and as long as they do not suffer then what is the harm. Also depression is a hard thing to handle without the added complexities of having a baby. You have to think deep and hard as you are making a concieous choice and not reacting to a situation ie an unplanned pregnancy. I wish you look and hope you feel better soon xx