was pregnant with ds at same time as cousin was pg with ds1, she is expecting dc3.

[OracleInaCoracle]

she had dc2 around the same time I had my ep, and now she is pg again. nothing wrong with it, she is lovely. her dp is lovely (this is his first) I just feel a bit sad. we are the same age, only 20d between us. both sufferers from ED's (her bulimia, me anorexia - under control) and when we were both pg at the same time we laughed about our lives still following the same path.

I know its shitty of me to be upset, but this is her second child that she concieved while we were ttc #2. dh keeps telling me that she hasnt stolen my pg (which, of course, I know) but I still feel crappy about it.

:( No wonder you are upset.

If it helps, I was exactly the same when we were going through infertility. I would wail to DH that yet another friend was pregnant and that there would be no "baby luck" left for me. I am a scientist FFS! I know exactly how statistics and probability work. But it doesn't work like that in your head when you are so desperate to be pregnant.

I did the same as you, and tried very hard to be happy for the couple when we were together. We had kept the infertility very quiet, so no-one knew that it was painful for me. I just went home and sobbed in private. :(

thanks, i feel bad for being upset about it. Im a rational adult ffs. and she is lovely. and a good mum to the two she has. and is in a stable, loving relationship. and deserves something nice to happen.

but so do i ffs

i have some idea how you are feeling when pregnant with ds1 we were friends with two couples also ttc 1st baby, also we were lucky and got pregnant quickly however both couples had been trying to conceive much longer than us both did conceive towards the end of my pregnancy. however when we strted trying to conceive ds2 both couples, we found out conceived really quickly and had , had their second child before we had even conceived ours luckily we found out we were pregnant shortly after but it does feel like a race sometimes. towards the end of my 2nd pregnancy we found out one of the couples was pregnant again and her youngest was only eight months old funnily enough it took her about two years to concieve her first then she seemed to get ultra fertile now has thee under four youngest only 3months old [ im sticking with two ] best of luck it will happen i have pcos and mine were both conceived naturally eventually

Im not as bad as i was 2 years ago, but its been 5.5y now. I had several mc's and a tube removed. am just feeling a bit soirry for myself.

My sister in law was pregnant just before me, and since then I have had two MC and she has a beautiful baby girl that is turning one. Every time she hits another milestone I smile and say all the correct things, thinking about the baby I never had that would just be a month behind. It's her first birthday soon and there is going to be a party with family and other friends with babies, I hate myself but I really don't want to go.

Life is just shit some time.

you are allowed to be upset, I can't think of anything more upsetting that all of this.

I no longer every log onto FB, decided about 4 months ago that it was just putting me in an upset mood every time someone else put up ultrasound photos.