DO I OR DON'T I - ADVICE REQUIRED

[tegan]

I AM AT A POINT IN MY LIFE WHERE i FEEL READY FOR BABY NUMBER 3 BUT THERE ARE SOME DOWN POINTS TO CONSIDER. HOUSE IS A 3 BED AND WE CAN'T AFFORD TO EXTEND. DD1 (7YRS) AND DD2 (18MTHS) WOULD HAVE TO SHARE AND IT ISN'T REALLY FAIR ON EITHER OF THEM AND WOULD i COPE?
sOMEONE HELP ME MAKE A LIFE CHANGING DECISION PLEASE

Since when has sharing a room been such a terrible hardship on siblings? Many of us grew up sharing a room w/a same-sex sibling throughout our childhoods/teens w/no last ill effect.

See I am an only child and have never had to share anything (that sounds so selfish but I'm not) and I don't know if it is fair to expect DD1 to suddenly have to share her personal space after having it for so long.

I had to room in with 2 of my brothers when my 3rd brother was born - he was seven years younger so i guess i must have been 7 or 8 sharing with a 5 or 6 year old and 8 or 9 year old brothers.

We had SUCH a laugh. Drove our parents mad!

They wont mind - you might though

We played guess the theme tune, oh and guess the theme tune played by blowing raspberrys on your arm.

Word association, look out for the big scary bunyip, see who can get downstairs and blag a glass of water/orange juice/biscuit, et c etc et c.

It might be different when they get to teenage years though.....i had my own room by then as i was the only girl and the 3 boys shared.

What does your DP think btw?

honey if you want a third baby... have a third baby.

As I've said before, if I let a simple thing like bedroom space and finance stop me we wouldn't have the gorgeous DTs now. In fact we wouldn't have DD2 either.

We love our large brood and they all manage to share.

I shared a room with three other sisters and it was your average three bed council house size rooms.

We had a bunk bed and two single beds all next to each other.

Bedrooms are just for sleeping really and there was never really a point in the whole day that we all wanted to spend time in the room. There was a bit of hair pulling but there usually is with sisters

Go for it!

I think its good to make children share.

have you asked DD1 if she wants to share with DD2 ? if she says yes, put them in for a week & see how they get on. if they love it, great & if they hate it...well....it's down to you !

You could always get DD2 to share with the new baby instead.

I shared with my sister and loved it. She was 8yrs older than me and I was gutted when she left home and 'abandoned' me! My two bros shared a room, too, but seem to have come to no harm. Wouldn't your dd2 and the baby be able to share at some point, if you wanted your oldest to have a room to herself?

agree with bewitched... get dd2 to share with the new baby

I have asked DD1 and she seems fine with the idea and I already have bunk beds in her room anyway. I do worry though that when DD1 is 13 DD2 will be 7 and will they get on?
Like I said before I am an only child and for me this seems like a really big thing to do.

I have noticed alot of people lately with 3 or more kids is it a trend?

Our 3: dd1(6),ds (4) & dd2 (18mths) share one room, and it works fine No 4 is due in Nov, now that might be too much, but we have some roof space to expand into eventually!

The siblings get on brilliantly, but I think in any family that depends a lot on the mix of individual personalities, and the family dynamic as a whole - not necessarily size of age gap.

About coping - it sounds like no 3 would be really wanted - and a dd1 of 7 is actually a great help - ours is 6, and she has always given dd2 endless cabaret

Spooky - no 4 is actually due at New Yr - so one obvious down side of more children is loss of sanity...

I am 80% convinced this is what I want and dh would be over joyed if I said lets get pg but will I fit everything in and get to school on time etc..