How best to deal with it?

[PuraVida]

hello

Ive read a couple of threads recently involving people who are having difficulty conceiving and how hard it is being surrounded by people having babies

I'm very sensitive towards this, having a few friends at different stages from it taking a long time to being a couple of tries into ivf

What I'd like to ask those who are having difficulties conceiving is how is it best for a pregnant friend to be around you?

Clearly I am not going to bang on about our fantastic fertility (and luck) but equally I am conscious that avoiding the subject is unnatural. I know it depends somewhat on your closeness and particular relationship as well as the circumstances. I just want to be able to strike the right balance and share what's going on in my life without causing unnecessary upset. Hope that makes some sense

You sound like a really good friend and I wouldn't worry too much as you sound very sensitive to the issue. I wouldn't avoid talking about your pregnancy, just try and talk about other stuff as well. I am happy for pregnant friends, just sad I'm no,t so there are times it really 'rubs' it in by hearing about pregnancies. The one thing I would avoid is conversations about how easy it was to conceive, how unplanned it was or how unprepared you are because of it being so easy - that is the most frustrating thing to hear for me personally.

And congratulations on your bfp - that is something exciting to celebrate, and you shouldn't feel like you can't talk about it.

I'd say just be sensitive before speaking e.g. don't whine about it being hard to be preggers if you know the friend is desperate to have a baby. Tbh I agree with MiniH, that fact that you're aware is probably enough. Congrats on your bfp!