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2 miscarriages and trying again

14 replies

diddygirl · 13/03/2011 20:04

Hello
I had 2 miscarriages (blighted ovums) last year - June and October. I asked if I could go for tests which they agreed to. Initially I was told it would be 8 weeks before I found out the results. To cut a long story short and 5 months later, I have found out that everything appears normal with my bloods. We are going to start trying again later this month but am absolutely terrified of going through a third miscarriage. Has anyone here experienced recurrant blighted ovums and then gone on to be successful? I wish I had an answer of why this happens to me. Is there any truth in the idea that some of us are just unable to carry boys as a number of people have said this to me now.
Thanks

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babyfour · 13/03/2011 20:26

Sorry to hear you are going through this. I have been through recurrent miscarriages and have many many tests.

With regards to tests done, have you had full genetic testing of you and your dh?

Also how late were the blighted ovums diagnosed? Were they after 10weeks?

I have not had the unfortunate experience of blighted ovum I am sure someone else will be along soon too help with that.

I hope you get answers soon.

diddygirl · 13/03/2011 20:33

Thanks for your reply.

We have both had the chromosome tests done and I have had others done. We already have a 4 year old DD, so they didn't think it would be anything chromosomal anyway.

My first blighted ovum was at 8 weeks and I had the tablets to bring on miscarriage. The second happened naturally at 6 weeks.

I have felt completely in limbo since Oct, not wanting to try until I got the results. In some ways I'm disappointed they couldn't find anything, which they could then treat to give us a fighting chance.

Thanks again.

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babyfour · 13/03/2011 20:37

Sorry also meant to say, you might get more answers on the www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage threads.

janeybooks · 13/03/2011 20:39

Hi diddygirl and sorry for your losses. I have had 2 mmc in last 6 months. First natural at 10 weeks, then erpc last Monday again at 10 weeks. I'm very much in that grieving period but also anxious for cycle to return to start ttc again. But also terrified of another mc. After 2 you can't help being paranoid can you.

scotlass · 13/03/2011 20:42

just typed a reply then got kicked off internet grr

So sorry you're going through this

I had 3 mcs 8wks, mmc at 11wks then 5wks, tests all came back -ve

I had an older DD too and kind insensitive MIL suggested I couldn't have boys

Well 4th attempt and my gorgeous strapping toddler is a boy

I really hope it comes right for you too

Georgimama · 13/03/2011 20:47

I don't know how to reassure you, I sympathise so much. I had 2 early miscarriages in the space of six months Dec 2008 and June 2009 - I don't know the specific cause but I presume they were both blighted ovum as lost so early and I had illness or injury to affect me at the time. I have DS who is 4 and I am just coming up 20 weeks pregnant. I had no investigations to ascertain whether there was any cause and just put it down to rotten bloody luck to have two on the trot like that.

I'm not enjoying this pregnancy as so worried something will go wrong (although I have never had late pregnancy problems in the past - the only time I have got this far before was with DS) so I understand the paranoia entirely.

Georgimama · 13/03/2011 20:48

no illness that should say

babyfour · 13/03/2011 20:49

I wondered whether you would say they were less than 8 weeks, a blighted ovum cannot be truely diagnosed before this point. So the 6 week miscarriage would not be considered a blighted ovum as women with a tilted uterus have scanned that can be upto 2 weeks behind and so it is not possible to say that there was definitely no feotus at this point. It can only be diagnosed as a blighted ovum when the sac gets big enough to truely show that there is no embryo, this is normally confirmed at around 10 weeks, sometimes as early at 8 weeks, but due to women with tilted uterus' this is sometimes a misdiagnosis.

I have children and since then 9 miscarriages, and nothing found until I did clotting tests when I was pregnant. I had normal tests when not pregnant.

This has meant I am now on a new treatment regime.

You 6 week miscarriage, may have been just one of those things rather than a blighted ovum and so it might have been completely random (the 1 in 4 statistic). It does not make it much easier for you, but it might help to think that the statistics for miscarriage do not increase signigicantly until after you have had 3.

I am trying to encourage you that there is a good chance that if you got pregnant again, that all could be ok.

As are recurrent miscarrier I fully understand your worries. If you want other routes to look down other than the routine testing done, you could consider looking at NKcell testing, done in a few places the main guy being Dr Shantala. Several women on the miscarriage threads have gone down this route.

There is also the TEG test (that picked up my issue of clotting in pregnancy) done at St Mary's.

There is also the double blind trial results due to come out later this year on prednislone for recurrent miscarriage.

I know it is hard facing another chance of m/c, and sometimes it helps doing further investigations. Sometimes it does not help. So really it is up to you to think about what would help you the most.

I hope you get your babe in arms in the near future.

diddygirl · 13/03/2011 21:03

Thanks for all your replies.

Babyfour - I had internal scans and both showed empty sacs. Would they know from a scan if I have a tilted womb?

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babyfour · 14/03/2011 17:20

I was not told I had a tilted womb at the start, it was only when I asked later that they said I had. I have had many many internal scans and to be honest the skill of the sonographer and the quality of the quipment make a huge difference in what they can and cannot see.

With my dd I had some spotting at 7weeks pregnant, went for a scan and was told there was an empty sac only, and to prepare for the miscarriage. 2 weeks later, my dd was there plain as day with correct dates etc. it was not that she was not there before, it was just that they could not see her. It is not unusual in women with a very tilted uterus to not see anything except a sac on the scan until 8 weeks. Sometimes it is even difficult to see the sac, but that is just down to poor scanning technique generally (as I have found!).

Also if you look at the misdiagnosed miscarriage website, there are several stories there of people being told very late on that it is a blighted ovum only to discover that is was not. Hence why I say that they cannot call your 6 week pregnancy loss a blighted ovum, it is a miscarriage Sad

You would have to ask at a scan whether your womb is tilted, if they suspect it is, then you will be positioned with your bottom and hips up on a wedge/cushion to tilt your pelvis for them to be able to get a better scan. I hope this helps.

I also hope that your next pregnancy is successful and that you get all the support you need.

diddygirl · 14/03/2011 19:10

Thank you so much. I will ask about the tilted womb if I am ever unfortunate enough to have to go through it all again.

I think both pregnancies were doomed regardless of the scanning equipment as my HCG levels were not doubling, they were rising but not as they should have been.

Oh well, third time lucky...

Thank you everyone for your kind words and support. I wish you all the very best.
x

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diddygirl · 12/04/2011 19:52

Hello

I'm reviving this old thread I started last month as I think history may be repeating itself.

I did a pregnancy test yesterday (period was due) and got a BFP, but have been spotting for about a week. With my last 2 miscarriages the spotting started about a week after my period was due. Do you think there is any hope? There probably isn't and 99% of me knows this won't have a good ending.

I just don't know what to do as I'm currently on holiday in Spain - not that there's anything I can to to prevent a miscarriage if it;s going to happen.

I'm so fed up - I seem to get pregnant ok but can't hold on to it.

Does anyone have any advice?

Thanks
xx

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hairylights · 12/04/2011 19:57

scotlass thanks for sharing ... Have had 3 mc since last June... Last one in January. wil be ttc soon so good to hear your happy ending :)

hairylights · 12/04/2011 20:00

Ps so sorry this is happening sissy I didn't realise it was an old thread.

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