Feeling exhausted TTC - when do you call it a day?

[IfAtFirstUDontSucceed]

DH & I have been together 12 years and have been TTC for nearly 4 years. Neither of us have any DCs and it's starting to get a bit tiresome! It is such hard work getting pregnant and when it eventually happens it doesnt stick - 2 M/Cs in the last 12 months. It feels as though we're being left behind by our friend - there have been several pregnancies over the last few months where they've either been together a short while/ are on to their second / or was not planned! It all seems so exhautsing at the beginning of the month, only to be let down at the end :(

Have you been to the doctors? There's lots they can do, especially as you've been trying for years.

I agree, it is exhausting. M/C is heartbreaking I know, particularly when everyone around you seems to get pregnant just by looking at eachother!

We did have some investigations lined up, but then I got PG & MC'd - they now say that I have to wait a year without getting PG before they'd consider looking at us again.

What an awful situation. :(

Do you have the money to go private?

This is the kind of awful situation where some idiot misguided soul always advises to relax and go on holiday (nudge nudge wink wink), but that really isn't the answer, is it? :(

If it helps, then the left-behind feeling is very common. If you want to use MN as a way to rant and rave and still keep your real life friends, then you will find lots of sympathetic ears on here. I went to a specialist counsellor when it was all getting a bit much, and that helped.

But I'm afraid that I don't have any practical advise on when to stop. I have a feeling that I wouldn't have stopped. DH often says that we wouldn't have had x, y or z treatment, but I'm not so sure.

I think you need to ask NHS direct where you can find out about your rights for attention. I thought you were given automatic tests after two years. I know you said you miscarried but i am sure after 4 yrs you could have some further tests. It could be something so simple. I am sorry it has been such a long time for you.

{{{{Hugs}}}} hun!

I would go back to GP and demand tests. Tell them straight, TTC for 4 years, no luck then 2 mc in 12 months. You have a right to know what is happening and to try and make the best possible chances to make the next bean stick.

I know its all down to the Dr you see, but we started tests after TTC 9 months!

Good luck!