if i haven't managed it this cycle i'll have been trying for a year with no joy :(

[celynbear]

this isn't so much an "asking for advice" post. Just more of a rant really because i haven't really got anyone in "real" life that knows we're ttc (apart from the boyfriend haha).
I know my cycles were all over the shop coming off the pill and i expected as much... But i was still really hoping it would happen in around the first 6 months :( i just can't believe i might have to see a doctor about it when so many people i know managed it with no trouble, or by accident :(
I do try my best to stay positive but it does get harder every month. It gets to the point where i think i wouldn't even mind getting a bfp and then having af a few days later, just to prove i can at least get pregnant, but then i feel completely horrible for thinking that! It's just so demoralising and upsetting to think that i've never had a bfp. And another thing that upsets me is the fact that i can't imagine being pregnant, i just can't picture it at all even though it's all i want... I just don't feel lucky enough any more.
I'm really sorry about the rant.. Just having a bad day. Sorry for boring anyone who read this x

Celeynbear - come and join us on the TTc 6+ months. I am coming up for a year too although I had an early m/c I know what you mean about the bfp thing. Some ways I think things must be working but as time goes on you do get the same worries as month after month goes on with nothing. Really sorry for your struggles . I am booking myself into the doctor on April 1st to get things moving- I think tine to bite bullet.

thank you :) i think i will come on over. Be good to have a chat with people in the same boat!x

Don't give up. It took us a year of obsessive trying to get number 1. The following 2 babies we conceived within 2 months of trying each time!

I totally relate to what you're feeling esp not feeling lucky etc.

At 12 months we started investigations, because I couldn't stand waiting and was 33 at that point. And if you're worried maybe start the ball rolling with your GP just in case?

Good luck x

thank you! That's really reassuring. I'm glad i'm not the only one. I'm trying to stay optimistic and think that the first few months didn't really count because of coming off the pill.. But it has still been a year. And i would rather know if there was something stopping it happening rather than just doing nothing. So i think i will make an appointment :)

Being on MN really does give you a support network you don't have links to in real life!
We've been TTC for over a year too no joy. If you're not sure about your cycles etc I like many would recommend "Taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Weschler to help you work out what's happening with your body, a start to how to chart (if you're not!). We were v disappointed with lack of babies from random dtd but when I looked back at when we were doing it it wasn't actually around ovulation! Still waiting for bfp but feel more confident we'll hit the right time now.
There's also a thread called "Feck off with your babydust"
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1110014-Feck-off-with-your-babydust-The-hut-of-gl-doom-home-of-inadequate-reproduction

where you'd be free to rant and also get support.
Get yourself down to your GP - won't do any harm and may reassure you if results are normal and help you to start dealing with issues if they're not. Good luck!

i really should get that book! Loads of people on here have said how good it is. Think i'll order it today. And if this cycle is a no then it's straight off to the gp. I think not knowing if something's wrong is actually worse in a way. Thank you for the advice. Just knowing i'm not on my own in this is such a huge relief :)

You should def get it! I wouldn't go quite as far as saying it changed my life but It's certainly helped my peace of mind :).