Is anyone else here using donor eggs?

[wantbabyNOW]

Or just me?

Not myself, but I have friends who have.

Do you know of the Donor Conception Network?

Good luck.

No, I hadn't heard of it KnittingRocks, but just Googled it and found their website. Looks really interesting - thanks!

No worries. Are you planning to use donor here or overseas? They can be a bit anti going overseas due to the anonymity issues but friends I know who have used it as support have found it useful.

I have two friends with donor singletons (one donor egg, one double donor) and a friend with donor twin boys.

Btw, I needed IVF and met these friends through infertility support groups - I don't just have an unusually high number of infertile friends !

I'm going overseas. How about your friends? Did they go overseas?

I know what you mean about having so many infertile friends through support groups. I had a newly-married friend (who doesn't have fertility problems) round for lunch yesterday, and she was talking about ttc through having sex and it seemed so, well, old-fashioned

I'm hoping to use donor eggs. I'm hoping to do it in the UK because I'm not sure about the complete anonymity abroad.

I've been searching for a donor and have been lucky enough to have a few replies. Three ladies got in touch but then for various reasons couldn't donate after all, now another lady is waiting to see if she is a match for me, because I'm CMV negative. It's an emotional rollercoaster but at times really positive; its just amazing how nice complete stranger can be!

How are you doing it? Are you going abroad, or staying in the UK?

I'm going to the US. It's up to the parties involved how much anonymity there is. Some donors are happy for contact and for the child to know who they are, others are not.

One went to Spain and two had UK donors.

Lol at old-fashioned sex - how very common!

Dh did point out that explaining the birds and the bees to DS1 would be easy as it was all nice and clean in a lab .

2moggies, good luck.

I'm just starting a donor egg cycle now, with an altrustic donor in the UK. I'm about 1000% more nervous than I was with previous (IVF) attempts!

Hi there theory, wishing you luck! Its only natural to be nervous but really its easier than own egg IVF, so you'll be fine. Let me know how it goes!

knittingrocks I'm so envious of your friends, wouldn't it be lovely to be able to plan to conceive the 'old fashioned' way! So much more fun!

thanks, 2moggies. Fingers crossed for you and for wantbabyNOW too!

I think I'm more nervous this time because I know there's a better chance of it working -- when I was using my own old eggs, I didn't get my hopes up all that high. And because I feel that if it fails, I'll be failing my donor as well. Like you, 2 moggies, I'm simply amazed by altruistic donors. Our donor is a total stranger, and I find myself a little overwhelmed by her generosity, tbh. I feel some pressure to live up to it. Plus the ordinary freak out feeling of infertility treatment!

Hi theory I know what you mean. I did egg donation with a friend last year. I didn't expect it to work because she was almost 38 and a smoker, my partner was a smoker, and I had never been pregnant before! But it did work - and then I miscarried and I felt bad for my friend too, she was so excited about being an auntie!

Hi, just wondered why you were going abroad for your egg donor is it because of the waiting time in the UK? I used a website last year called Pride Angel, it has alturisitc egg donors listed all over the UK. If it is because of the waiting time it may be worth you checking out Pride Angel and seeing if there is anyone that would help. they all seem pretty genuine. I know it is a very time consuming thing to do and can also be costly so maybe if you can find someone in the UK willing to try it may be beneficial? the link to pride angel is www.prideangel.com I hope things work out for you, keep us updated on how you get on Best wishes Dawn xx

Hello again theory - I'm getting really nervous now too! I couple of women have said they might donate for me now and I can hardly believe my luck. The kindness of strangers is amazing and lovely but is making me feel a bit guilty somehow too. Now I am waiting to see if either of them is a match for me and is able to go ahead. I think its the waiting that is so nerve-wracking!