Trying to be patient, but worried..

[Randomgal]

Hello! I'm a little bit new to all these forum things on here. But seems like a good place to find people who may be having the same thoughts as me..

And i dont know all the little letter code things yet, just learnt that TTC means trying to concieve, i think lol.

I was on different pills for contraception for about 3 years, majority of the time Dianette. Now i'm off it and trying for a baby with my boyfriend. Not been trying long (almost 4 months to be exact) but am impatient because a couple of people i know are pregnant, and they are single and it happened from just a single one night stand! So am quite frustrated.

After coming off Dianette my periods are manic, had 2 so far, one lasted 44 days and then 55 days.. All that time, and me getting weird feelings like the same symptoms as pregnancy was just like my body majorly teasing me into thinking i'd got lucky :(

Just thought i'd see if there is anyone else around here that's feeling the same and maybe we could drown our sorrows together..

A friend told me the more i want it, the less likely it may happen, just because of sod's law, so i'm trying not to think about it, but deep down it's getting to me. So worried that i might just not be fertile, or my boyfriend might now be. We're doing everything we can to try and make this happen, but its like fate is saying no :(

Anyone feeling the same? or maybe been in a similar situation and found a quick fix trick to making it happen? lol

* Needs some company *

Bless you but I had to laugh at the'quick fix' idea. Most of us wouldn't be here if there was such a thing!
Stats show 8O PERCENT of couples actively trying are successful within a year and 90 percent within 18 months. My Gp said try to having swi (sex with intent) 3 times a week every week to increase your chances. With erratic cycles like yours is suggest going on to fertility friend (www.fertilityfriend.com) where you can learn to monitor your fertility signs (there's an online course and you can create online charts.
I've not long started charting (been ttc for 13 months) bit I'll try to.add the link do you can see an example. Might be worth hopping on a bus? Good luck!
www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/

Lol, well it was worth a try!

Thanks, I'll try that website :)
The statistics mean I guess I'm gona have to be alot more patient before I can really start worrying.

Thank you :)

just thought i'd let you know you're not on your own! I came off dianette in around april last year and at first didn't have a period for over 100 days, then 60 something, then 50 something... It's only in the last 3 months that everything's finally started to seem normal! I know it's not exactly helpful because there was nothing i could do but wait. And i'm still freaking out that there might be a problem with one or both of us, but i'm trying to put that out of my mind. Loads of people have said dianette is hell to come off so i'm just hoping everything's normal and it's just that stupid pill's fault!
So i'm sorry i don't really have any suggestions, but i hope it at least helps a bit that someone's been through the same sort of thing! :)

also, i definitely know the feeling of pure jealousy when friends or family get pregnant by accident.. My cousin has pcos, uses condoms, and still managed it, while i've been trying for almost a year and got nothing. I honestly don't get how that works.

Random, heard a fertility doctor talking on R4, he said that if you are under 35 and its been a year then go to the GP, but if you are over 35 you should go after 6 months.

4 months really isn't that long when TTC though, it probably just feels like it.

This might help with the abbreviations

Ooh yes ty jilted, I didn't know that page existed! Now I shouldn't look too much like an idiot :)

Yeah celyn, I looked up some stuff online about dianette and nothing particularly made me smile.. All it seemed to say was generally it takes a year to conceive after coming off it, but in some people it has taken anything up to 8 years, which is just ridiculous. I don't know what I'd do if I was still waiting in 8 years time :(

Jealously gets worse. Sister in law had her 2nd child Sunday night. I haven't been able to face it yet. Eventually gained the strength to text her and say congratz yesterday, but that's it. Seen pictures and it upset me, feel bitter even though I shouldn't do :(

I know 4 months isn't a long time, but I think I just thought I'm young, healthy and active, why wouldn't I get pregnant pretty fast? Dont think I prepared myself for the trying stage taking longer than I expected.