Egg Donation

[Delightfulldee]

Hi Everyone,
Im not sure im on the right site here, please feel free to point me in the right direction.

We have been trying for a baby for several years now and have just been told i am going through an early menopause and the only chance we have of having a baby is through egg donation , is there anybody who is going through the same and as we have to find our own donor does anybody know where is best to advertise for one.

We would be gratefull for any advice at all.

Am very sorry to read about your situation and I hope you are receiving adequate support. The Daisy Network may be helpful for you to contact as well re early menopause (they can offer support too).

www.hfea.gov.uk is the UK governing body regarding all aspects of fertility treatment. I would have a look at their website in the first instance as it is quite comprehensive.

www.daisynetwork.org.uk

A friend has just had a beautiful baby via egg donation. She used a fertility clinic that arranged for her to pay for another woman's IVF in return for sharing their eggs.

Would that maybe be an option for you?

Hi,
Thanks for your replys Attila i will look on that web site thankyou very much and no i havent recieved any support at all but i do have good friends and family :0). I have been on the hfea web site but it doesnt tell you where to advertise. I have tried advertising in the local hospitals but dont really know where else to go but thanks anyway.

Suzi, we dont have enough money to pay for another persons ivf but its a good idea so thankyou :)

Its just so hard to find a place to start with this and the hospital just tell you that you need to find your own donor and send you on your way.

So sorry to hear you're in this situation. I don't have direct experience.

AFAIK most egg sharing in the UK is done via egg sharing schemes. So if you're looking for a fully altruistic donation that may be trickier (I've had IVF and it's a very full on process, which is why egg donation is so much harder than sperm donation).

You could try various online sites for adverts - Fertility Friends for instance - as well as adverts in local newspapers and even public transport (certainly in London some of the egg sharing clinics advertise in Metro and on the tube). I appreciate this may be v expensive, but it may be worth looking into. You could also try contacting the Donor Conception Network, to see if they can offer any advice.

Using your own network of friends and family could also work, though I'm not sure how you'd feel about having to ask everyone whether they know anyone who can help. I remember reading a thread someone started in Conception about being an egg donor - I think her name was Treedelivery or something similar if you want to search the Talk archive. As far as I remember she was donating to a friend of a friend.

There's also the option of going abroad for egg donation. Many parts of Europe and the Med (eg Turkey) are a lot cheaper than the UK for egg donating and treatment in general. You can also do things like embryo adoption. Check out the Assisted Conception thread on here. There's a graduate who conceived via donor eggs abroad (I think she's had her baby, so isn't around as much, but if you read back over the thread you can see her experience) and there are other women going through waiting for a UK egg donor and going abroad for embryo adoption.

I wish you all the very best and hope you find someone soon

Hi Flipfantasia,

Im on Fertility Friends i didnt think of advertising on there,i will look into that also im going to advertse in the liverpool echo and your right it is expensive lol i have adverts up all over even in the local cafe lol, i had a advert on another forum but i had some strange people answering! and a lot of people answering saying they would sell there eggs for between £1000 to £5000, i dont mind making a donation as a thankyou as i know its a big thing for someone to do for you its just im not sure if i really want an egg from someone who is just doing it to make money if you know what i mean :).

I have tried friends and family but no-one seems able to help, ive had a few offers but nobody has followed it through, which just gets your hopes up and then you feel let down again but im getting better at coping with that now :)

Maybe if i dont here anything from these adverts then i might look into egg donation abroad, my mum said she will try help us out with the money side of things if we need to but i dont really want to ask her as she already does so much for us :)

Thankyou for all that info though i will check it all out and good luck to you too :).

DelightfulDee It sounds like you have a supportive family, which is great, though I know what you mean about offers to pay etc. Donation can be quite an ethical minefield.

I really wish I could help, as we've had our own struggles with infertility (my husband has a low sperm count) and I count my blessings every day that IVF/ICSI worked for us and gave us our son. I wish you all the best on your journey to motherhood.

Hi OP - nothing to add in terms of advice but wanted to wish you luck and tell you that I went down the egg donation route. I had 3 rounds and conceived each time. The first resulted in a mc at 9weeks, after which I was diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder that must be treated when pregnant. Second round resulted in DD now 1 yo and the third in my current pregnancy (20 weeks). I went abroad as the queues were shorter and the donors younger (thus increasing chances of success). I went to Spain but I understand Reprofit in Czech Republic is very good and very cheap. Very best wishes to you.

Hi,
Flipfantasia, Thankyou yes i have a very good support network of friends and family :)My partner also has a low sperm count and we will be having ICSI too, so so pleased to hear that it worked for you and dont worry about helping me its just nice to talk to people that understand what we are going through so thankyou again :). I will keeep you posted x

Stangirl, im so sorry to hear of yor mc, i have had 2 mc and i also have a blood clotting disoder, i think they think thats what caused the mc although those happened a few years ago, I will have to have heprin injections through my pregnancy, is that what you are having ? At least i know about the blood clotting thing now so i should have a better chance :) Thankyou for your advice on the abroad clinics i will look into them if i dont find a donor from all my ads :)Im so pleased that your pegnant it makes me think there is light at the end of the tunnel x

Thankyou both i feel much more positive now x

I am wondering if there is any wonderful person out there who would consider donating eggs to myself and my husband? We are having a very difficult time and have been told the only way forward is with the help of a donor angel. I live near Brighton.