Christmas Present??

[LyraBelaqua]

Hello

My DH and I have been TTC since a MMC in Dec 10.We had planned to stop for a month because we have friends who are Christmas babies who wish they were born at other times of the year. However, now the time has come to stop I dont want to and I'm wondering if other Christmas babies or just anyone with an oppinion can give me pro's and con's of being born at this time of year (as many pro's as poss if you catch my drift).

Sorry to hear about your MMC.
How about:

1. Born near the beginning of the academic year so do better at school (according to some)

2. Birthday is likely to be in school holidays, hurrah!

3. Good chance of some really good birthday+xmas presents-in-one, which doesn't work if your birthday's in July, say.

Mainly I don't reckon it matters though....hth.

Can have 2 birthdays! I have taught 3 chn born on or around 25th of December and without exception they ve had summer birthday parties thrown for them so their friends can go and got family pressies at crimbo!!

Oh and people also will have no excuse for forgetting your birthday and it's an exciting a magical time of year for little ones.

Having the same dilemma as you LyraBelaqua! Was all set to take a break from TTC to avoid a December or January baby. Like you, now the time for the break is nearly here I am having second thoughts and don't think that I will be able to not try on those months.

In support of a December baby I can say that my sister is a December baby and my parents were really strict that Christmas preparations didn't begin until my sister had her birthday celebrations. Our Xmas tree didn't get put up until well after her birthday. They also made sure that they never combined Xmas & birthday pressies etc.

Also in support of a December baby I was thinking over the Christmas just gone that it would actually be really quite nice to be either imminently expecting a new arrival as Christmas approaches (kind of magical) or have a newborn coming home to the house with all the twinkly lights (probably sounding like a right twit for saying that!).

I also agree with twizzlestix. My DP also suggested a second Summer birthday.

We thought the same but I can't see us stopping now. We have been ttc for a while and it would seem such a waste to miss any opportunity. My granddad was born near Christmas and he never felt it was a bad thing

Your post has just made me a bit weepy troutinpout (in a nice way). Just had a BFN for what would have been a November baby and had had similar thoughts to others here about not trying for a few months to avoid having a Christmas baby, but actually don't want to stop trying. But the idea of being pregnant over Christmas and/or bringing a newborn home to a lovely Christmassy house is really nice.

I think really there isn't a perfect month to be born - if you're a summer baby you're the youngest in your school year which can bring its own problems, one of my friends was saying yesterday that she is worried about the idea of having a late autumn/early winter baby because of dark nights and grim weather compounding being exhausted with a new born and it being harder to get out of the house in bad weather... I think we will just keep trying and worry about how to manage a Christmas baby if and when it happens!

Sorry to hear about your BFN LoveInAColdClimate, it's a rubbish feeling. I've given up POAS because I am beginning to feel like a fraud and can't bear to look at another negative results strip (makes me think of the Dulux paint colour sample cards - mine is always "Artic White"!).

Just thought of another pro for a Christmas baby - nobody will expect Christmas presents from you, after all what better gift than a baby in the family. Maybe I'm just tight!

Read in the paper last week that less babies are conceived in February than any other month in the year. Don't know if there is some biological reason for that or whether it's because lots of people stop trying in that month to avoid Christmas babies. So another pro might be that the maternity wards will be quieter if we have a Christmas baby!
Anyway, am hoping to buck the trend and conceive a baby this Feb.

I know just what you mean about the arctic white, poutintrout! I got all excited because I first looked at the test with my bedside lamp and was convinced there was a faint line, but in daylight it was in fact quite offensively negative.

Interesting about fewest babies being conceived in February - you'd think Valentine's day would actually cause a bit of a spike, like bank holidays do.

Like your Christmas presents point (although also am weird and adore Christmas shopping and present wrapping!). But bet you would also get loads of presents allegedly for you but really for the baby - one of my heavily pregnant friends was (jokingly) somewhat disappointed to receive a changing mat for Christmas!

I am about to get a bfn, was going to stop for a month as had the same thoughts. But now I think getting organized for the next round of swi is the only thing keeping me going.

LoveInAColdClimate I'm not sure how impressed I would be with a changing mat (probably in part because I have over the last year of TTC planned in great detail exactly what baby stuff I want including the changing mat. Not that I am madly obsessed by the whole thing of course!). If we had a Christmas baby I would fully expect my DP to say "well I thought the cot was your Christmas present".

Have been known in the past to take the test to every room in the house to look at it in different lights in the vain hope of seeing a line. Madness. Will try the bedside lamp!

Weimy - I know what you mean about the thought of trying again getting you through the disappointment of a fail month. Not sure I could cope with the thought of not trying again until April. Would probably have a force 10 grump on the whole month.

Another pro for Xmas baby is that you can buy one of those baby suits with the little reindeer antlers and it won't be tacky because it's Christmas (and it matches the dog's Santa's Little Helper hat - yes I ought to be sectioned ).

I think you would be crazy to stop trying for a baby because of the month the baby would be born in.

Reducing your chances of conceiving to avoid having a child with a birthday near Christma?

It makes no sense.

The being conceived has to take precedence, surely? Else there'll be no birthday.

Pout I've got antlers for my dogs!!!!

I am taking a break after the next cycle (currently cycle 9), partly to avoid a Christmas baby and partly because I have a follow up relating to some treatment in June. So whilst a few months delay if preganant is ok, I don't really want more than 5 months delay.

Hahaha, I was just saying to DH this morning that if we are lucky next month we will be able to bring the baby home from hospital in one of those little reindeer suits! Oooooh, and imagine the amazing Christmas decorating lengths I could go to if on maternity leave in the run up to Christmas... the world will never have seen so many gingerbread houses and strings of oranges and cinnamon sticks! I normally get pretty carried away anyway so I assume that nesting instincts would encourage this even more. The other week I bought cookie cutters for a nativity scene and gingerbread house to create a lovely tradition for my unconceived DCs [woo emoticon] - how lovely to start that tradition the month they are born. Now really want a Christmas baby (or, obviously, any baby at all!).

My birthday is Christmas Day and it really is the worst day to be born. As a child birthdays get swamped by Christmas, no party on the day and people are too busy with family at that time of year. When I was a young adult pubs and clubs were shut and nobody would have gone out on the day had they been open. Now as a mother it's one of the busiest days as I'm swamped by entertaining others and catering for my children's needs. I hate it and so make a big thing of mother's day where I am truly spoiled and write off the birthday as Christmas.

Oh, asdx2, that's sad, I'm sorry. Perhaps you could have two birthdays like the Queen?

That it I'm convinced we will not be stopping TTC! That is unless tomorrow is my lucky day andI get a BFP. Not looking positive though

Go for it Lyra. I certainly won't be stopping TTC, as it's already been long enough and I don't want to waste a chance. SIL tried for 5 years and had IVF. Twins were born Dec 23rd and I'm sure she couldn't have given a hoot after all that time. The babies won't know any different will they?

I am a Christmas baby (23 Dec) and it isn't the best date for a birthday but it's just how it is.

If I could actually manage to conceive I wouldn't give a flying fuck what date the baby had a birthday!

My sis's ivf baby was born dec 22nd. She is so so happy to have him. The Xmas thing is irelevant.

Id quite like a xmas baby although would be quite happy for a nov baby this month lol, My other DD's are both summer babies so purposly trying for a winter baby, although cant say i will stop when we are still ttc at summer baby stage

Doris - i'm with you, to get a BFP, stay PG and have a Xmas baby would be the best Xmas present ever - plus could have a drink NYE to celebrate. Holly, Joseph, Noel....

Hi I've debated about this too. For us (fortunately/unfortunately) we're going to have a break from ttc. If we didn't need to, I would have carried on regardless. Ultimately its you and your Dh should chose together. Weigh up options from here and decide for yourselves! Hope its a bfp either way soon!