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Going to the dentist during the TWW

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googietheegg · 15/02/2011 09:23

I need to go to the emergency dentist today and it's during the TWW - do I say 'I might be pregnant?' if they need to use some sort of painkiller? Has anyone been in the situation that can share some wisdom?

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bemybebe · 15/02/2011 13:38

When I underwent IVF, the nurse told me to 'act pregnant' including tellling all relevant persons 'I am pregnant'. Harsh if it does not work (as it did not for me), but that way you are not risking as much.

Anti-inflammatory drugs that are widely used in dentistry are not given in pregnancy, so do not be shy!!

... and huge huge good luck to you! (btw, I am now 8 weeks pregnant myself, fell naturally just before starting the next round of ivf ;))

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googietheegg · 15/02/2011 18:19

Oh bemybebe thank you so much for a lovely answer! I shall take your positive thoughts and make sure I leave plenty for you too (am feeling soppy so this must be a good sign right?!)

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spidookly · 15/02/2011 18:52

I think there's quite a bit of a difference between acting pregnant when you've had an embryo medically implanted and when you're just not pregnant but have been having unprotected sex.

I think you act pregnant when you know you're pregnant.

Getting all worked up about the so-called 2ww is silly. Being "on the 2ww" isn't anything, it used to be called "not being pregnant yet".

When there's something you need to be taking into consideration, you'll know about it.

Do what you want about the dentist thing, but please don't spend 2 weeks out of every month acting as though you are pregnant, it's ridiculous.

Also, why is it two weeks of waiting? That seems an unfeasibly large proportion of a regular menstrual cycle to be "waiting" rather than shagging.

ImFab · 15/02/2011 18:54

Ouch.

But unfortunately true.

Northernlurker · 15/02/2011 18:59

Spidookly I think that's a really harsh post. The op is trying to do the best thing for herself and a possble baby. Telling her she's ridiculous is just unpleasant.

OP - in the very early stages of pregnancy the baby is very resistent to outside influences - drugs, alcohol etc have afaik no impact on the pregnancy. Running a high temp for example might do though so it's actually important to take some medications etc.
Hope you got on ok at the dentist.

spidookly · 15/02/2011 19:08

I didn't tell her she was being ridiculous.

I said it would be ridiculous to spend half her life pretending she was pregnant.

It was meant kindly - people drive themselves crazy with this shit and get very upset when the pregnancy they've been treating as real turns out to be non-existent.

hugglymugly · 15/02/2011 19:36

I do think spidookly that your posts were a bit harsh. I don't know googietheegg's story, but I don't think she'd have asked the question if she didn't have concerns about the effect of dental treatment on a possible pregnancy.

I know nothing personally about the emotional effects of TTC, but I can sympathise with people who want to protect a possible longed-for pregnancy even if that possible pregnancy is at the pre-implantation stage.

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googietheegg · 16/02/2011 08:27

Goodness me. Spookily, perhaps you've been lucky enough to just get pregnant with no worries, but I certainly haven't, so I want to do everything I possibly can to make it happen.

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googietheegg · 16/02/2011 08:54

Spidookly, I mean.

Also, I never said I wasn't still shagging! Just trying to do the best thing possible.

Please don't hang around on the conception board if that is your contribution, as the people here may be in a different mindset to you and your comments can be quite upsetting when you're feeling vulnerable. Leave it to people who can at least say what you're saying in a more sympathetic and empathetic manner.

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spidookly · 16/02/2011 11:12

Well it's entirely up to you.

Spend half your life acting pregnant when you're not if that makes you feel good.

It just seemed like you were being anxious and worried for no reason.

The only response you had received at the time I posted said you should act pregnant if there was any possibility you might be.

I was just offering an alternative way of looking at it. I'm sorry if the way I put it wasn't to your taste. But you did ask your question on the Internet.

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googietheegg · 16/02/2011 11:23

I do appreciate the sentiment of your post and I shall take it on board, but just bear in mind many people (here especially) have not found it easy to get pregnant and cannot be laissez faire about it as perhaps someone else might be.

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spidookly · 16/02/2011 11:33

I will bear that in mind. The culture of the Conception boards is not something I am familiar with. Threads mainly come into Active Conversations with rude titles about drinking gin. Perhaps that gives a slightly skewed impression of the general tone of this part of the site.

I really did mean my post to be a helpful counterpoint, not as any kind of ridicule.

I think there is a lot of pressure on women from the moment they even start thinking of becoming mothers to start acting differently and thinking of themselves as walking incubators and it's not something I think is good for us.

Hope the dental treatment went OK and best of luck for the end of your wait :)

helenlouisey · 16/02/2011 11:50

Hi, i'd definitely tell your dentist there is a possibility you may be pregnant, it is really important if they are going to want to do any x rays, these can be dangerous to an embryo, even one that has just implanted during your TWW. Hope you manage to get your tooth sorted and your BFP soon :-)

Ariesgirl · 16/02/2011 12:06

If you looked at the "rude titles mentioning gin's" actual content you would realise they are about people who find it very difficult indeed to get and remain pregnant. Never judge a book by its cover and all that.

spidookly · 16/02/2011 12:43

You think I should go touristing on boards for women who have trouble conceiving?

My point is that the tone of the threads in Conception has never seemed from the titles to be particularly sentimental or hugsy.

The Recurrent Buns threads have the wittiest title of all threads on MN, but there's no way I'd go reading those threads just to make sure I'm right about what I think they're about.

Ariesgirl · 16/02/2011 13:09

You know I don't think that. Why bother posting at all if you have no interest in or knowledge about the topic? I wouldn't post in the dog owners' section? Or the abusive relationship one. That's all. I'm not going to say any more.

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googietheegg · 16/02/2011 13:48

spidookly, surely you can appreciate that these women (me included) are just trying to be positive about what can be a very difficult situation. Dark humour and all that.

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spidookly · 16/02/2011 13:51

Yes, googie, I can. There is no criticism intended in anything I said.

"Why bother posting at all if you have no interest in or knowledge about the topic?"

I do have interest in and knowledge about the topic of whether it makes sense to act pregnant when you are not pregnant.

The Conception boards are not private, they show up in Active Conversations.

I will contribute to topics if I choose.

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googietheegg · 16/02/2011 13:57

Of course you can post where you like, but it is probably a good idea to be mindful of the specific audience.

For example, I assume you wouldn't post on the depression boards 'just cheer up' as you would know there's more to it than that?

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spidookly · 16/02/2011 14:09

Yes, but just because someone is TTC doesn't mean they are struggling to conceive.

Plenty of women don't.

And plenty of women who conceive within months spend those months obsessing over symptoms they don't have and being miserable for half the month.

FunnysInTheGarden · 16/02/2011 14:16

spidookly you have made the mistake of applying usual MN grit and straight talking to the conception boards. I did this once, never again

Posters on conception and pregnancy have to in the main be treated with kid gloves.........they are very fragile you know

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googietheegg · 16/02/2011 14:18

OK, you win.

(What are your buttons though? Perhaps you're over-weight and I'll just say 'eat less, move more and stop winging about being such a lard-arse' and tell you how I'm perfectly in proportion. We're supposed to be here to support each other, not gloat in the boards where we do not have any issues.)

ANyway, I'm off for a shag. You can stay here and be right.

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Ariesgirl · 16/02/2011 14:20

Funny that some hilarious, blunt talking MN posters forget that Conception and Pregnancy is actually a precursor to being a parent.

ThePippy · 16/02/2011 14:28

I had a dentist apppointment 1 week into my 2ww and he said I needed routine x-rays due to not having had them for a few years. I mentioned that I would find out the following week if I was pregnant and the dentist said we would leave it. As it happened I needed to go back for a hygeinist appointment the week after so I told him I would be able to confirm one way or the other at that appointment, and happily I was able to tell him I had a postive preg test result.

I know it was VERY early and probably having the x-ray wouldn't have caused any harm, but I would have never forgiven myself if I had gone ahead and something had gone wrong.

While I agree with spidookly that you shouldn't go around acting pregnant (if only to avoid the upset each month if it doesn't turn out to be true) avoiding activities that might be harmful in case you are is always advisable imho.

Good luck with the TWW.

OracleInaCoracle · 16/02/2011 14:28

op, what CD are you on? it takes up to 10 days for an embryo to implant, and they are designed to withstand an awful lot. however, if yu are having problems conceiving you DO need to be a bit more careful. whether other posters agree or not, it is not a good idea to get hammered the day before your period is due if you have fertility issues. you should tell your gp that you are ttc if they are prescribing medication. because if you get pg, take meds/have an xray, then mc you will never forgive yourself.

skidoodly, its worth remembering that many people who come looking for conception boards do so because they have concerns regarding their fertility. well meaning advice is all very good, but can do more damage than you'd think.

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