When to start/try

[KarenHL]

My baby was born last December and died on the same day. We knew in advance it was v.likely, hoped he be one that beat the odds tho'.

Please don't judge me for thinking of TTC - I'm only thinking & we certainly haven't forgotten DS in any way. But - IF we decide to try for another, do we have to wait a set time before trying? I did have an elective.

I'm now 35, so worrying about being 'over the hill' as such - is there really so much extra risk when we get over that age?

I'm sorry about your son.

So long as you're feeling physically well and you are mentally prepared for another pregnancy, I can't see any reason why you can't try now.

No-one will think bad of you for TTC.

I can't give you any info on age as I've not dealt with that but sure others will be along to give you more info.

Have you been to the SANDS forum? It's very helpful over there (not that it isn't here!)

FWIW, I conceived DS3 2months after DS2 was stillborn. It was an incredibly difficult pregnancy mentally but obviously worthwhile when DS3 arrived.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Noone is going to judge you for trying again. You want a family; that is fair enough.

I don't think there is any medical reason to wait. After a caesarean some doctors tell you to wait a year before becoming pregnanct again, but the risks of not waiting seem pretty small. See caesarean.org for more information.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

I'm so sorry :( that must be heartbreaking for you.
I certainly wouldn't judge you, but I can't tell you how long you ought to wait, i'd suggest you take medical advice. Your body has been through a lot with a pregnancy and birth and c section, and you have been through an awful lot emotionally.
in theory at 35 it ought to be better to get on with it. But go with what your doctor suggests.

Good luck for the future and hope you will have a healthy pregnancy and a better outcome next time.