Help- understanding my friend who is going through IVF

[kitcat83]

My friend who is going through IVF to conceivce her second baby after having tried other methods of fertility assistance as she has health problems, has recently clammed up on me and is a totally closed book. Her attitude is not her usually bubbly and friendly self. Any attempts to make sure she is ok or if she wants to talk about anything have been stone walled, when previously we would talk at length about things.

Unfortunately her cycle of IVF has coincided with me falling pregnant and I have a feeling this is a very hard pill for her to swallow.

Can ayone help me try to understand how she may be feeling and how she may wish to be treated as a friend as I am very concerned about her.

I'm afraid this is all about her. It is very sad, especially seeing as you have been good friends. But having to have IVF when all around her friends are getting pregnant must be, as you say, a very bitter pill for her to swallow. She needs time I guess. Just let her know somehow that you are there for her. If she wants to be left alone, leave her alone and if she wants to talk, listen. It may be that she has got a group of online friends going though the same thing and she does all her talking with them.

It's hard for her and it's hard for you as her friend :(

Thank you.

My Dh and I had trouble trying to conceive our second even when there is nothing "wrong" with us. This was hard enough emotionally with out any other infertility issues to deal with. I know there is nothing I can do I just want to be able to help.

I also would like to know how you feel when going through IVF