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Wanting to have another baby

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CornwallMum · 27/01/2011 20:11

Our Son is going to be 3 in the Spring and I'm desperate to have another child.

When my husband and I met, he wanted maybe 3 or 4 children like me. He already has a teenage daughter from a previous relationship.

Since our son was born, his views have changed and he thinks "I'm mad" to want more children.

I'm hoping that later this year I will be able to persuade him to try again for another child but am disappointed that we may only have one more.

One of the main reasons for his reluctance, apart from the initial sleepless nights, is the cost of childcare. We both earn well and can't afford for either of us to give up work (or in fact work part time, which is a shame).

Any ideas as to how to address these obstacles? Sad

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CrystalQueen · 27/01/2011 21:12

No answers from me - I'm in a similar situation. Our DD is 2 and I want another baby. My DH isn't keen. He is currently a SAHD (due to our relative salaries - I am much better qualified) so I do see his point - it would be him looking after the baby. It seems so unfair that I would love to stay at home, but we just can't afford that, while it is pointless for him to work just to pay childcare.

CornwallMum · 27/01/2011 21:22

Thanks CrystalQueen, at least I'm not on my own

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Notfinanciallysavvy · 27/01/2011 21:37

No, not on your own - me too!

My ds is 2, and I am desparate not to not have another baby iykwim?! Not sure I can deal with the sleepless nights though ...

CornwallMum · 28/01/2011 15:25

Thanks Savvy

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ThatllDoPig · 28/01/2011 15:35

When your older child is three you will qualify for some funded childcare, it is worth finding out about, as could make a difference to the household budget, if you had two in childcare. Especially bearing in mind that one of you will be off on maternity/paternity for a while. It would be really sad to not have another child for financial reasons. Even if you were really skint for a few years, it would go quickly really, and the long term gains for you and your child you already have would be immeasureable. (IMO) You might regret it one day if you don't follow your heart.
Defo worth talking it through anyway.

CornwallMum · 31/01/2011 10:23

Thank you ThatllDoPig, I totally agree and hope that I'll soon be able to pursuade my Husband

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