DH under pressure!

[WantBaby]

This is probably TMI but I have to know if other poeple are experiencing the same problem and if they have any suggestions to help!
We're finding that when it's the right time of the month to try and it's during the week my DH has problems maintaining an erection and we don't manage to BD
It's really frustrating and I don't know what to do other than pin hopes on IVF
Any suggestions???

Is this just a problem at the right time? are you mentioning to him that you are ovulating? just wondering if you didn't mention it might take the pressure off a bit...

Can't really do that as we don't normally BD dring the week coz DH gets up really early so I have to tell him I'm ovulating

...and we do it because Im ovulating. Can't really stop telling him

Wanto - how about simply changing your routines so that you do do it a couple of times a week, every week. Then he won't know which is the crucial week each month but you should be doing it often enough to conceive. It's a bit of a hassle but sadly for most of us TTC does involve a bit of effort! Good luck!

Might try that - see what he says - thanks!

My DH had the same problem. I think I was just exerting so much pressure on him to 'perform' and he definitely got stage fright and we ended up never having sex at the right time. it's excrutiatingly frustrating when all you want to do is get pregnant, but I agree with the others. If it's at all possible don't tell him when you're ovulating and just try to have sex more often. What worked for us too was to generally try to pep up our sex life a bit, so it wasn't all about ttc but also some enjoyment all round too . Things like getting some sexy knickers for me, having a bath together, giving each other a massage, doing more kissing/cuddling generally. I'm still not pregnant unfortunately but I can't blame DH anymore for that!

thanks for that will try doing the deed more often