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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Would be nice to speak to others who have been here!

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ComeTalkToMe · 25/01/2011 11:14

Hi all,

Why have I spent so many years trying not to get preggers and now I can't?!

Me and my husband (I'm 30, he's 31) have been married 7 years and have been trying to get pregnant for the last nine months (I've told the doc a year!).

We've just started investigations with the doctor. My cycles are all over the place from about 40 days to 70+. The first thing the doc organised was a test to see if I was ovulating - when I went back for the resuts the doc said that my progesterone wasn't high but as my cycles are all over the place that didn't mean I definitely wasn't ovulating ? it could have just been the wrong time in my cycle. I?ve also had an internal exam (no problems identified) and my husband has done a sample (awaiting results).

We?re now being referred to fertility specialists (we have some of the longest waiting lists in the country apparently) and I?m wondering if this is something that could be sorted with medication eg Clomid. I just find it really frustrating that we?re going to have to wait ages if the problem could be being dealt with. We?re looking into private treatment at the moment.

It would be great to speak to people who are/ have experience this as it can be lonely sometimes!

Thanks
xx

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onoffon · 25/01/2011 12:05

Yes, the waiting lists are really annoying. Especially for those of us that didn't lie and waited 12 excrutiating months before we went to the doctors.

Sorry; hard to be sympathetic even though I know the pain you're feeling.

chocciechip · 25/01/2011 12:26

I am sympathetic. The waiting lists are a nightmare, and the lack of joined up thinking in our area is even worse. If I had known the process would take me two years before we got critical tests (not the standard ones offered), I'd have done anything to speed it up, including lying if need be. But I am 40 and time is everything.

I was told bluntly by one of my consultants that its the persistent patients - the ones who push and push - who get their treatment and appointments faster, and that was his advice to us. So ... don't be a shrinking violet as you move forwards.

I think going private if the lists are very long is a good idea. The NHS should still cover the cost of the tests though, so if a private consultant says you need certain tests, do ask if he can write a letter to your GP requesting you get them.

And one big consolation for you - even if it doesn't feel like much - is you do have time on your side. It's so much worse struggling against this with your biological clock ticking and feeling as if you are the only person hearing it.

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ComeTalkToMe · 25/01/2011 12:30

Thanks for your replies - you're probably right onoffon maybe I should have waited the full twelve months. I've just been so down feeling like I'm doing nothing that I felt I had to do something.

I don't even know if we can afford to go private but we're going to find out more about it next week.

A few of my friends know and I'm just finding it so hard when people say 'it'll happen' although I know they're trying to be nice but they really don;t know that!

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onoffon · 25/01/2011 14:24

Sorry, I really do understand how you are feeling. Just been told I have to wait another month before I can have a HSG (I have to call every month and so far I've been waiting since October).

Had all my blood tests and DH's SA in November but can't see a fertility consultant until after the HSG. Its ridiculous.

We have also considered private; but think I'll wait until I have the test results before we decide - at least they might give us some answers.

I don't know about you, but I find all this medical intervention really upsetting - its not what I expected when I thought about getting pregnant

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ComeTalkToMe · 25/01/2011 14:40

Yeah, I thought it would just be a case of deciding we were ready!

Sorry what's an HSG - still learning the terminology!

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onoffon · 25/01/2011 14:52

hysterosalpingogram - its where they inject fluid into the tubes via the cervix and x-ray them to check for blockages etc. I've been told its not as bad as it sounds- but definately not looking forward to it!

chocciechip · 25/01/2011 15:31

onoffon, an HSG is not as bad as it sounds at all. I was also told it would take months for me to get one but our consultant told me its waiting list AND cycle dependent, so there are lots of cancellations and can be first come first served. I got one the very next month by making sure I phoned early on the days I had to call, to try make sure I got one of the cancellations. And if it was engaged I'd press re-dial over and over (to try stop someone else nipping in!). I was stunned when it worked, but it did. Good luck with it.

onoffon · 25/01/2011 17:11

Thanks chocciechip I think its the cycle dependent bit thats the problem for me. You have to be day 7-10 and our hospital will only book appointments for a Tuesday. Without fail, AF always arrives on a Thursday or Friday!

sickoftheholidays · 25/01/2011 17:59

Onoffon - start charting your cycles with BBT, CP, CM etc etc. it will help you to work out if and when you are ovulating so that you can "target" your efforts if you see what I mean. if you dont get the thermal shift etc, you might not be ovulating, and clomid will help with that. Its my GP's first line of defence before referring to the fertility clinic actually.

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