Charter's Anonymous: Volume 5, those BFPs are ours!!

[Iwish]

Well here we are on volume 5!! Plenty of room for growing bumps and stashes of Thermometers and pee sticks!!

This thread WILL bring BFPs, everything crossed ladies apart from your legs!!

I hope 6x SWI is a lucky number for me too!!!

nice to 'meet' you Tunnocks

mrsden maybe it was the 18th?

I've not temped today I think I will leave it till my next cycle.

Essence I am very proud of myself , I walked straight past Costa today

Eek mrsden. hope your temp is up soon - I was kind of flagging a bit by day 6!

Somebody talk some sense into me - I am having a bit of a 2ww freak out.

I think because I have made so much effort this cycle I am going to be really diappointed if it doesn't work. :(

I have talked myself into the last 4 months of 'failure', being down to not enough swi/bad timing so am getting a bit anxious to find out!
Probably just because I am grumpy from being up late!

I was lucky enough to conceive after only 2 months with DS so I think I was secretly hoping to do something similar this time.

Tell me I'm being silly!

jaggy you're being silly!!
Try not to stress. It drives me crazy too - so much so that I am thinking that once ov is confirmed, I will stop charting till af arrives.

I keep focussing that many fit, healthy women (incl celebs) take 8 months and more to conceive, so it's prefectly normal to take a while.
Shame I'm not fit and healthy though.......

Congrats tunnock wow that was quick! Good luck.

My cycle is all over the place atm. I got my lowest temp ever today. FF has me 7 days post-ov but I'm not, I'm sure. I'm still waiting for ov!

www.fertilityfriend.com/home/MrsArch

jaggy I think I read somewhere that even if timing is perfect and everything else is perfect there is still only a 25% chance of getting a BFP. I like that statistic because I keep thinking that it doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong because I haven't fallen pregnant after 7 months. I'm sure that I haven't had the timing right every month, and then even when we have got it right there is still only a 25% chance. I find it easier to think that we just haven't been lucky yet.

I do think that we are led to believe that getting pregnant is so easy and it happens straight away for everyone. But that can't be true. I think that people probably downplay how long it took them after they get a BFP.

Thanks, I needed that

I know I am being silly, just dreading the BFN/temp drop.

I got it all back to front - when we were TTC last time I was all set up to take ages, no expectations, so was at fast BFP. Now I am so impatient

I shall now behave. :)

Jaggy I know just how you feel, my temp drop hit me hard this month because I felt I had done everything right.

Mrsden is a very wise woman!

Weimy I'm only wise today because I'm not in the 2ww yet, all sense goes out the window then!

Feeling down, CM all dried up and have some kinda pant snot (sounds lovely I know) - had same thing last month just before AF.

Well, I went to my GP today thinking she would send me away with my tail between my legs commenting"You have only been trying 6 months!!!"

In fact she was really nice and has agreed to send me for basic blood tests - FSH/LH, thyroid, sugar and whatever else she has written on the form. She has also asked my DH to come in so he can be referred for a sperm analysis.

Feeling a bit better, even though I hoped I wouldn't have to see her until I was up the duff!!!

mrsden
AuntieD thats very reasuring!

terrys sorry you are feeling low :(, 2ww sucks. Weimy number three is licking the screen sympatheticaly :)

auntie thats really good to hear, can imagine that will be OH and I in May. Hopefully it'll just be something really little that they sort out.

Woweeeee tunnocks ... awesome news! I?ve put up some bunting and balloons for you to make up for the lack of celebration on FF .

I am feeling MUCH better today thank goodness. Nights out are just too much like hard work.

weimy, folic, essence, I am also trying to lose a bit of weight and get fitter, but it?s proving impossible. I?m really struggling to motivate myself and I think it?s partly because I?m hoping I?ll not be able to carry on with it in the near future ? which is crazy because it?ll just make it all the harder if I don?t get a bfp. I just don?t know how to snap myself out of it. Any suggestions?

On the subject of crosshairs, what do dotted lines mean? Should I push on with SWI?ing just in case? I was caught out last month and don?t want to do that again!

Hmmmm MrsArch, that is a bit unusual on your chart. Did something happen last night? I?m sure you?re still to ov yet too. FF needs to be taken with a pinch of salt at times don?t you think?

jaggy - I?m struggling with 2ww too and only got my cross hairs at the weekend. It?s going to be awful, but I think it?s normal to feel like this. I?m already symptom spotting! I think if it doesn?t work out this month I?m going to stop temping. I think I?m focussing too much on the dates and I?ve always been better at getting pregnant just by regular SWI?ing for the entire month.

That?s brilliant that your GP was so supportive AuntieD. I?m the sort of person who prefers to be doing something than nothing so if you?re anything like me, it?ll be a huge help getting checked out.

Terrys, Terrys, Terrys - hope you?re ok. It?s too early for AF yet. Stay positive!

weimy - I managed it! A day without a Costa hot chocolate!!

Terrys - AAARRRRGGHHH! at 2ww for you.

AuntieDoris - great news! Will DH go for his SA willingly?

jaggy - I'm glad I'm not the only one who's thoughts go all over the place! Hope DS gives you a better night tonight!

mrsden - you will forever be known as thewisemrsden (well until your 2ww anyway!)

MrsA - not sure about your chart, sorry! The usual wait and see what that pesky thermometer says tomorrow, I guess...

My chart is here
My crosshairs have moved to dotted ones since I added EWCM to today. If it wasn't for my CBFM readings, I would be wondering whether I really have ov. I'll wait for tomorrow's pesky thermometer reading!

My day was topped today by a work colleague (M) asking me if I am pg! I know I'm a bit overweight but nowhere near as much as M herself! I mentioned it to another colleague/friend and apparently M was asking her a couple oif weeks ago if I was pg! I'm so and debating sending her an email explaining why that is such an inappropriate question, especially as she knows we had such problems ttc DS

Just a quick helloe to everyone, so tired from work today just want to flop into bed so will catch up soon.

Im 3 DPO according to FF, a quick question FF says I ov on Friday and we swi at about 20 minutes after midnight (so technically saturday) - am I cheating to put this in as Friday, looks better lol!

He says he will go for the SA willingly and has promised to make an appointment to see the GP next Monday. We'll see whether he does it or whether I have to nag him, which I really don't want to have to do!!

essence well done! I had hagen daz instead! I think I am missing the point!!!

IMHO M sounds like a bitch, what is it to do with her? Grr :(

Ochaye I know exactly what you mean, I know I need to do something but I keep thinking what if

Newgolden I'm not sure, I probably would have put Fri as well.

Morning!

I got my crosshairs today www.fertilityfriend.com/home/332dc0 say's I ov'd on Sat, we didn't SWI on the Friday but did every other day, so hopefully ok.

NewGolden I'm very strict with myself about that and definitely would have put Sat AM.

essence not very nice of M, I wish people would just mind their own business!

terry ((hug))

I'm feeling pretty low at the mo as well, i've another cold, and all the stress of work, moving, wedding is really getting to me. I didn't get dressed or showered at all yesterday until OH came home and made dinner and forced me to have a shower whilst he was cooking. But i'm up today and eating Porridge [yum], need to drag myself out of the gloom!

Morning all

FF and I are falling out - it is making me cross and confused! I was so sure that I OV-ed on CD17 (ALL the signs were there, even a slight temp increase) but its got me down as CD19 - if it was CD17 then my temps are looking good, if not then I have to wait a few more days. Frustrating, I think so!!

Anyhoo - its a waiting game, again!

karbea ((hugs)) back to you! Hope today is a better day for you. Oh look, you can have one of these !!

AuntieD glad the docs are being proactive, I hope the tests go well.

essence some people are just numptys!! Nuff said

Newgolddream doesn't matter when you put SWI really - but I would do sat, 20 mins will not make a difference in conceiving I am sure.

weimy you are being very mean to us - how can we stalk you if you won't temp!!! When are you POAS??

Ochaye hello lovely!!

Morning everyone!

Many congrats tunnocks, short and sweet lol.

jaggy - youre not being silly, it gets really depressing sometimes wanting something so badly and it just not happeneing. Ive often said it wouldnt be as bad for me (patience and waiting) and it wouldnt matter how long it took as long as I knew it would def happen, but of course cant get this guarantee eh.

mrsarch - it ddoes seem a big dip....but could it be an implantation dip??

mrsden - thanks for that explanation re timing - Ive often wondered why it doesnt happen even if timing is spot on, does anyone have any ideas - if there is a sperm and an egg there together at teh right time I wonder why they dont fertilise?

auntied - so glad you had a positive experience at GP and it can help to know you are being proactive sometimes.

terrys - sorry you are feeling so bad

ochaye - I think dotted crosshairs are if some information doesnt quite "match", they can change to filled in ones and back again as Ive experienced, particualrly if I input watery or EWCM after FF thinks ive ovulated, I do seem to get this a lot though.

essence - no wonder youre so pissed off, I would be to.

weimy, terrys and karbea - thanks for your thoughts re swi "timing" - I guess in the great big sceme of things iot doesnt matter, I just knew FF would say I ov on Friday (and it did) so putting in swi on Saturday makes it look as if it was a day too late, even though technically it was only just after midnight! The things we get caught up in lol

As a matter of interest does anyone know if we just ovulate at any time of day, or is there a time of day this is more likely, as Im sure I read somewhere its more likely to happen at night, dont know if thats true though.

Just wanted to pop on and say hello. I've been away on hols and not been a very good charter .

I'm trying to catch-up on many pages news but to those BFPs I missed, belated congrats . Also wanted to send a message to Ravenlocks that may or may not reach her in the interweb-ether... Was very sad to see you on here as I thought you had cracked it in Jan. Really hope that the stress-free, MN-free approach works and do let us know when you get a BFP.

Holiday ended with a vist to the Drs for me and the DH. Dr was lovely and sounds a bit like AuntieD's experience. DH and both booked in for tests and we should get the results back in the next couple of weeks. Even if there are no 'problems' she said that if we wanted to be referred on to hospital/clinic (or wherever you go next) she would be happy to do this as I'm 33 and we done 8 cycles which is a fair few. Didn't really expect that and honestly don't know if I want to be referred if the tests come back 'normal' but it's kinda nice to know it's an option.

Anyways, enough self-absorbed nonsense from me. Will report back in once my chart is back up and running...

Hi All!

Sorry Terrys I am being very naughty, just didn't want to see it sliding down.

I have poas twice because I haven't had any spotting and got BFNs, am due on on Thurs. But now I am pretty sure I have a urine infection or whatever you call it. cloudy wee and lower back pain :( Going to phone for an app tomorrow.

Not good weimy. Hope you're feeling ok.

I was feeling so positive yesterday and today am completely flat and convinced we got it wrong again. Ah well ...

NewGolden That's not true, the egg might have been floating down the tubes around midnight and the sperms may have found it.

Terry thanks for the

Ive had a bath and put some candles on, watching EE, waiting for OH to get home, Chicken stew in the oven [yum]