I had a d&c on 9th December after a missed m/c. I am now unsure what to do. I feel emotionally ready to start to ttc again but am conflicted on when to start, now or after my first af. I spoke to 2 nurses when I was in hospital. One said that I should start after my first af to give my lining time to build up. The other said that it was up to me but the "official line" was waiting until after 1 af but that if it happened earlier the chance of another m/c is not any higher and that it was mainly for dating purposes. Now I don't know what to do. I kind of want to get started straight away but don't want to raise my chances for another m/c. Any ideas or experiences would be great. I was over 9 weeks when I had the d&c. I had a d&c after a m/c in between my 2 children and I did wait until after my first af but I was hoping to get started sooner.
Another thing that is now stopping me from going for it this month is my DH. Today, after 3 months of not doing it (or not in front of me anyway), I found him sat with the laptop on his knee. He must have had it there for over an hour. I know that it is not great for sperm and may stop me from getting pg but would anything in the computer cause problems with the sperm which may mean another blighted ovum or problems with the baby. Should I wait until after af to make sure that all the sperm he could have damaged has gone or am I worrying for nothing.
I know I probably sound irrational (DH thinks so) but I think the m/c has made me even more antsy and I am a bit of a worrier anyway. I started having problems at 5 weeks and was in limbo for a month before having my d&c and I am very low at the moment.