Long-term TTCers- another friend pregnant! Help me cope please!

[cloudwine]

She's a lovely friend who I have confided in over the last 18 months about our secondary infertility/ plans for IVF etc, but I felt like I'd been slapped round the face when she announced her 12 week scan was next week after one month of TTC and then asked (with her head on one side) "Any news with you?" Grrrrrr.

Obviously I'm really pleased for her, but I'm finding it really hard to spend time with her as it just feels really awkward between us. I know I'm not the only one to have been through this. So what did you do? I think I'll be ok again once the baby has been born, but that's 6 months away. I just want to cry around pregnant women at the moment.

Oh cloudwine that is a tricky situation. I don't have any advice really as I find it very painful each time a friend announces a new pregnancy. I've been TTCing for 3yrs and it hasn't got any easier.

Be kind to yourself though and if you need to limit how much time you spend with her then that's just what you need to do.

Sending hugs xxxx

I feel you pain.

I'm TTC #2, I have one who took 3 and a half years to conceive and I'm on 17 months and counting with #2.

EVERYONE, but EVERYONE I know that is of child-bearing years and married is pg just now. All of them. The toughest is all the people that were pg at the same time as me before. The next wave will be all the people that conceived AFTER I did doing it again.

Unfortunately, much as I'd like everyone to stop having babies until I manage to conceive, they're simply not going to. So you have to find a coping mechanism. Confronting the issue head-on can work - don't stop seeing her, fake it till you make it..you'll get used to her being pg, it's just an (annoying) shock at first.

Good luck with conceiving your own.

That must be really hard for you. Is there any chance you could spend less time with your friend while she is pregnant? Im sure she would understand if you explained. I am also in a situation which is slightly the same but different! I have 1 ds who is 2, last march we decided to ttc dc2, I was so happy to conceive after 3 months of trying but sadly had a mmc in august, found out at 13wk scan my baby had died at 8 weeks, we were devastated but decided to ttc again straight away. we are still ttc 4 months later which is not that long but feels like a lifetime to us. To make things worse a colleage at work is pregnant (a few are actually), but this one is due 15 feb, I should have been due 14 feb! (which is also my birthday!!!). Its just really hard to pretend to be happy for her when inside my heart is breaking more and more everytime I see her! .
sorry I kind of went off point there but just wanted to let you know that you are not the only one and there is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling! wishing you all the luck in the world with ttc, and hopefully lots of 2011 babies for us all! hug!