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Please god not again - 11dpo

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Broodymomma · 17/11/2010 10:27

Am on the 2ww from my 5th ivf. My embryos were put back 9 days ago making them 11 days old. The last 2 cycles I have woke up on this day with streaks of brown blood when i wipe which within 24hrs turned into af.

So fast forward to my 5th and final cycle and its happened again. Woke up today and there it was - I took a hpt and it was negative. Am not supposed to test until Monday but am pretty sure something would show by now if I was pregnant.

I am absolutly devastated, I pretended I was asleep till dh left as I just cant face telling him. I feel such a failure - we have spent every last penny we have in trying to have another child and we both agreed this was the last attempt. I just dont know how to deal with it or tell him I have failed again.

I honestly feel like just giving up - I am a waste of space I cant even hold onto the most precious little embryos that were perfect when they were put into me.

I cant go on picking myself up and listening to "oh well never mind it was not meant to be" pretending I am ok and plastering the smile on after a week as thats whats expected. This has been 7 years of hell with the only one amazing miracle being my son from our 2nd ivf. He is desperate for a brother or sister and I am sat here knowing he is never going to have it. I hate myself I honestly do.

So sorry if this is the wrong place I just needed to say all of this

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KTDace · 17/11/2010 10:36

I am so sorry, I know (a bit) like you feel. Have been TTC#2 for 2.7 years and have had 2 MCs in that time, they are just devastating.

A big hug from me, I hope you are wrong and that it has finally happened. xx

KTDace · 17/11/2010 10:37

how not like, sorry

GetDownYouWillFall · 17/11/2010 11:05

You are being so harsh on yourself Broodymomma this is NOT your fault. It's heartbreaking, devastating, tragic, crushing, infuriating, but it's not your fault.

The brown blood doesn't necessarily mean what you think it means. Although I know what you must be thinking. Just hold out till monday like you were told, and just try and do something nice for yourself today.

buttonmoon78 · 18/11/2010 08:32

It's not your fault - you haven't failed at all.

I can't say that everything will be fine (and you now I can't) but I can say that this is not your fault.

And maybe, just maybe it's not what you think. I had bleeding with each of mine.

Don't beat yourself up. Which I know is easier said than done. x

BudaisintheZONE · 18/11/2010 08:41

You poor thing.

I have had one failed IVF cycle and have one 9 year old DS from my first IVF cycle. Won't be trying again.

I just wanted to say that although my DS wanted a sibling when he was younger, he is now very happy to be an only. Tells me all his friends are jealous and that he is 'living the dream" (his words!).

So please put that worry out of your head if you can.

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