When to ask for help?

[chalky3]

Hi everyone, haven't been on Mumsnet for a while in a (failed) effort to distract myself from TTC.

DH and I have been TTC since July last year. We had one success in May this year which we only knew about when I started miscarrying. What followed was the worst few weeks of my life (the miscarriage wasn't diagnosed properly for four weeks and the bleeding lasted six. Also, I was diagnosed with skin cancer around the same time which, thankfully, has been effectively treated) .
We put this terrible time behind us and started again. Although my periods returned to normal straight away and we are having regular sex, we have not yet had any success. We are trying to stay upbeat about it all but it's very hard not to wonder why.

According to all the medical websites you should see your GP if you have been TTC for more than a year or have had three or more miscarriages. I don't know whether that means they won't do anything to help us until a year has passed since the miscarriage or they will start investigations now as it has been well over a year since we first started TTC.

Can anyone help us with this?

Hi everyone, haven't been on Mumsnet for a while in a (failed) effort to distract myself from TTC. Though this topic seems to be mostly concerning contraception I thought my query might come under the banner of 'family planning' as well as conception. Any advice appreciated!

DH and I have been TTC since July last year. We had one success in May this year which we only knew about when I started miscarrying. What followed was the worst few weeks of my life (the miscarriage wasn't diagnosed properly for four weeks and the bleeding lasted six. Also, I was diagnosed with skin cancer around the same time which, thankfully, has been effectively treated) .
We put this terrible time behind us and started again. Although my periods returned to normal straight away and we are having regular sex, we have not yet had any success. We are trying to stay upbeat about it all but it's very hard not to wonder why.

According to all the medical websites you should see your GP if you have been TTC for more than a year or have had three or more miscarriages. I don't know whether that means they won't do anything to help us until a year has passed since the miscarriage or they will start investigations now as it has been well over a year since we first started TTC.

I don't think I can face being brushed off by a doctor again (had enough of that at the EPU) so I was wondering if anyone can help us with this.

I'm sorry to hear what a time you've had of it. Bless your heart. Well done for getting on the wagon again, despite how hard it must be.

It's good that your periods have returned to normal and as you know, it can take up to a year to conceive.

I think it does no harm to have a chat to your GP, raise your concerns. It may well be that he reassures you and nothing is done. But alternatively, he is the medical bod and may suggest something!

Someone with more specific mc info may be along soon....

Good luck

Thanks Miffles!

I posted the second comment here by mistake, I was trying to put it in 'family planning' too, duh!

Oh you've had a hard time. I don't think there's any harm in asking for some basic tests.

I had a mc after a year of trying and saw the gp. He was brilliant, v reassuring, said that in other countries he'd worked in (he was a kiwi) they consider 2yrs trying to be normal and the uk is a little quicker to investigate than other countries. But he was happy to start investigaations. I was pg within a couple of months (naturally, normal pregnancy, no problems).

So I suppose I'm saying it may be nothing and your body's recovering from a physically difficult time but there's no harm in seeing the gp anyway just in case.

Thanks Showaddywaddy. I've spoken to DH about it all which I'm glad I did, I needed to offload and he has a good attitude to it all. We've agreed to see the GP after we've been away on holiday in Jan/Feb if nothing has happened by then. I am holding on to the thought that it happened once so it can happen again, fingers crossed