Hi Itsallkickingoff, I am so sorry for your loss, I cant imagine how difficult that must have been.
I dont think one scan result is enough to say you have PCOS. I was (wrongly) diagnosed like this, on the basis of one scan and incorrectly taken blood tests, it is definately possible to have cysts and not have the syndrome. Sometimes the cysts go away all by themselves and need no treatment. Sometimes cysts are a sign that the normal hormonal cycle is not working correctly and there can be many other reasons for this like excess thyroid or excess prolactin, for example. (These are treatable problems and nothing to do with PCOS)
In a normal cycle lots of follicles grow on the ovaries, one of these follicle or "lumps" becomes dominant and produces an egg and then the rest shrink away. If things dont go to plan no follicle becomes dominant, no egg is released and on a scan these lumps show up and are now called "cysts" instead of "follicles". If you see these repeatedly on scans or if you have other symptoms, you should get a blood test to find out what the cause is.
A proper way to diagnose PCOS would be to take your history and see if you have things like irregular periods, infertility problems, mc, excess weight, acne, excess hair, history of diabetes in the family etc and also take blood tests on day 2 of your cycle (a challenge in itself if your periods are irregular!) They will check to see if the ratio of LH:FSH is 3:1 or greater. (these ratio should be about 1:1) sometimes this test needs to be done more than once. At the same time they can also check other hormones to test for things other than PCOS. As I understand it PCOS affects different women in different ways, some have few and some many symptoms.
PCOS is treatable, with contraceptive pills or if you are TTC with metaformin, but many women with PCOS have successful pregnancies with no treatment at all.
hope you get some answers soon xxx