Hhhm,
well a friend of mine that I have known since I had my eldest dd just told me that i would be insane to have another baby and it has really thrown me.
Admittedly we only communicate by email and phone( as she is a friend I met on another baby forum 6 years ago) but we know each other quite well.
I currently have 2 DC age 6 and 8 and last December DH and I split for about 3 months. It had been coming for a while and was as a result of both of us bottling things up, leaving things unsaid and both getting depressed. We are now together, talk a lot more and life genuinely has changed. We both work fulltime and have busy lives with our girls.
My friend thinks I would be crazy and from the outside looking in I can see what she means, but our life really is different now.
She thinks that we would ruin all this by adding a baby into the equation and that our two children will feel left out and we wont have time to enjoy them anymore or take them to the places we have been going. Plus she thinks that the stress will pull us apart again.
Part of me thinks that she feels like this becuase she has a one year old and an 8 year old and she is finding it hard work. Very hard work. The shock of going from one to two has really thrown her. The 8 year old is also very jealous and resenting the baby. The other part can she that in fairness my life was a bit of a car crash last year so looking in she probabbly thinks I am mad.
I dont what I want from you all really lol. maybe a voice telling me that actually a big age gap betweem my 2 elders and a baby wouldnt be so bad ? But I spose in terms of would we be ok, only DH and I would know really wouldnt we ?
Ahh well, writing it down helps. Thanks xx