after 18 months tttc number 2 with no success, we are looking at a diagnosis of unexplained infertility. which means it's IVF, adoption (which neither of us are keen on) or just accept that it's probably not going to happen. we have a three year old already and although we desperately want a sibling for him, am finding myself weirdly hesitant about IVF.
maybe it's having had a couple of close friends go through real turmoil with it - one marriage nearly broke up over it - but am now starting to wonder whether we want to spend money we haven't got on what's probably a wild goose chase (I'm nearly 40 and as nobody knows what our problem actually is, i guess the chances of success are not that great) and potentially putting the family we do have under a lot of strain. i just wonder if we'll regret later not having given it every possible shot.
has anyone been in a similar position and decided not to have IVF but keep trying naturally? or had unsuccessful IVF but wished later they hadn't?