Trying for number 3 and people think I am insane. Why is 3 so weird ??

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I have 2 DD aged 5 and 7 and if I am being honest I think I would like another.
I am 36 ( so not getting any younger ) and I currently work fulltime.
I havent told people that its something I am considering but more put it " out there " to see what the reaction is. I am so shocked how negative it has been. Its making me have some serious doubts.
I have been told that the baby stage is behind me, I would be mad to go back. That my y0oungest DD may suffer from middle child syndrome, that I would never be able to give them all enough attention, that I would find the sleepless nights hard agian. That pregnancy would be difficult as I am older etc etc.
Why are people so happy for you to have a conventional family but any more then 2 kids is seen as weird. Am i mad ?
Would the jump to 3 from 2 be soooo bad ?
My two will be 6 and 8 ( at the least ) when it arrived so surely it wouldnt be so hard ? It would be certainly easier then I found having a newborn and a 20 month old !!
Any thoughts ?

Forget what people say. Most of my friends come from families of 3 DC and they're all planning on having 3 of their own.

If you can financially afford it and have the space for it why not? More people for your DC to rely on when they get older.

I have two DSs (2.8 and 14m). I'd love a third but couldn't cope with it now so we're waiting until they're older, at school/nursery before ttc again. I think it would be lovely for the kids.

tell them to fuck off, seriously.

Ive got three boys 3, 8 and 13, when i fell pregnant with the last people couldnt hide how surprised they were and that they thought it was a bad idea.

Who cares what other people think, you are the one who will have to get up in the night etc so why do they care so much. People love to judge others its a nasty trait.

Good luck with whatever you decide oh and number three slotted in without a hitch, we hardly knew we had him. I found it alot harder going from 2 to 3.

3 is the norm around here so would not be seen as unconventional at all. Do what feels right for you and your family. Absolutely no reason to discuss your plans with anyone other than your dp/dh

I'm with domeafavour if you want three go for it. If I'm lucky enough I'd definitely have 3 :) good luck!

I like having 3, though bloody hell it's hard work, but then, mine are closer in age (3,5 and nearly 1).
It's a lot of total work - 25% more laundry, cooking etc than you're doing atm - but if you manage easily with 2 then a third should be well within your capacity. And 36 isn't that old!
You can really enjoy the 3rd one as well, because you're so confident & relaxed.

Thanks so much.
LOVE hearing that having three was easier to get used to then having 2 was ! I did find having 2 was hard but I think thats because I had them both so close together.

Im not even sure where this has come from to be honest. I was quite adamant this time last year that we were complete and I didnt want anymore. Then I had a scare where I thought I was pregnant and I was disapointed when I got a BFN !!

Although we aren't super rich ( far from it !!) I think we would manage ok. We do live in a 2 bed house though so It would be a squeezt to get one more girl in the bedroom. Plus the car would need to be changed ? Unless you can fit 3 in the back of a Mondeo lol.
Oh god I dunno. I must be mad. I juts think that I would really really like one more.

Thanks for all your input.

I owuld go for three, if i were able (not that i'm not, but you never know)
I was one of three, and most of our family friends were 3, too.

If you can afford it, then do it!
you're also lucky to have a good age gap between the middle and the new one, so it won't be as hard as having a baby and a toddler, like you had before.

and you can definitely fit 3 into a Mondeo!

I have 3 dd's, almost same age gaps as yours would be. I had dd3 when I was 38. It has been great. It is more work, and the work/looking after children/home scenario is more stressful. I did also find that my body didn't bounce back from the 3rd pregnancy as easily. However - it is one of the best things we have done, we all love the dynamic now. I have never regretted it, and I would have done if I didn't have the 3rd. In some ways the third is easier because she gets so much attention from the other two.

Hi, wow I can't understand why people have such a hang up, surely the number of children you have is your business and yours alone! I have just had my 4th (a surprise) at 40. I agree its stressfull and tiering but so is 1. So many people are struggleing to have one child that i feel blessed that I am lucky enough to have my family. If its what you want and you can cope then don't worry about anyone else x

I had a dd aged 5 and DS aged 7 when I had DD2. It is soooo much easier than having 2 with only 2 years between them!
They are both at school so you get to be at home with baby all day. I really enjoyed it.

DD2 is now almost 7, I have just had DD3 (4 months old) and am VERY unexpectedly 2 months pregnant with DC5.... (got the implant put in a week too late )

People who make comments are just jealous that they couldn't cope with more than 2. I am still in shock about this pregnancy but as my friend said, a child is a blessing, you'll always find room for it.

Three is a doddle go for it

What a load of rubbish! I'm 35 and a half and I haven't had a first yet. And I'm one of three (middle child) and I don't have "middle child syndrome" whatever that is. Go for it!