Trying to think of other things...

[BROWNB]

I'm new to MN as... I don't have any kids. Found myself pregnant for the first time last year by accident, and then had a miscarriage.

We've been TTC for a year now to no avail. I've been feeling alone and like I'm going slightly mad until I found all these various links on conception and BESH's. Find the terminology confusing, but very encouraging and supportive. :)

Was wondering if anyone can advise - have been feeling lower abdominal pressure throughout my cycle ever since the mc. My doctor tells me it's all in my head. Sigh. I accept I'm now super aware of everything that's going on in my tummy and might well be dramatising something I used to ignore, but am wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences and what it meant for them if anything.

Also, any ideas on how to take your mind off obsessing about wanting a baby. Am hoping it'll be easier now that it's over a year since I lost the last one.

Welcome BrownB. Sorry to hear about your mc. You are welcome on MN without kids - there are lots of us here that don't but are trying!

I'm can't offer any advice about the abdominal pains following your mc. You say they are throughout your cycle - does this mean all the time? Or worse at certain times? I wonder if you've been TTC for a year you could ask your doc for some more tests. This would ensure there isn't anything wrong since the mc, causing the pain, but also help you to know something is happening.

We've been TTC for 9 months and know how powerless it makes you feel. Whereas before you didn't really notice pregnant women or babies, now they are everywhere! I've been diagnosed with PCOS and am waiting for an appointment with a consultant. It is happening too slowly, but I know that things are in progress. This may help you too. It means that I'm no longer putting the pressure on us - me and DH, but kind of letting it be. Admittedly, once I'm seeing the consultant, there may be more pressure, but hopefully I'll take my new found zen with me!

Good luck :)

Amen to new found zen..! (or something!) Am off to the doc this week in fact, but have to admit, she has made me feel like a proper hypochondriac in the past. I need to steel myself, and you guys seem good with suggestions on intelligent informed questions (demands?).

Abdominal ache most the time. Worse around ovulation. Then bad bad bad in my period. I am of course worried, but have avoided reading too much about stuff like PCOS and fibroids.

Good luck with your consultant...

PCOS doesn't tend to present with pain. Fibroids - I don't know, to be honest. But that is the kind of thing that should be looked into. It is strange that you're having these pains only since the mc. How far were you when you mc?

As many MNers have found, us women are often far more in tune with our bodies than the doctors give us credit for. I would say to go in with a clear plan in your mind. You are TTC. You have been for over a year (exaggerate if poss - but probably can't with a mc on the books ). You are getting pains that are differnet and are causing you concern. You want them looking into. And you want help having a baby.

It is best to be calm and sound collected when you speak to the doctor. Even small things, like looking them in the eye - or trying to make them look at you too! Let them know you're not going to be fobbed off - which is why I say have a clear agenda.

Thanks, that's good advice. Fingers crossed for me. And that your consultant finds a number of unexpected cancellations!

Hi BrownB, sorry to hear about your mc.

Good luck with your consultant.

I'm also TTC#1 and find it extremely difficult not to let overtake my entire life.

Trying to stay positive helps though