Number two probably won't happen. Feel sad.

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Had blood tests and DH has had his sperm count done and whereas he's fine I am not ovulating 'acceptably for conception'

I've been told we may be able to conceive a second but it's unlikely and because we already have one DS there are no further services we'll be offered.

I'm so thankful for one DC and I agree with the NHS policy to not offer fertility treatment to couples who already have a child, I'm just sad that I may never get pregnant again.

I think I'm posting just to offload really, as there are many people on here that are in the same boat or aren't even as lucky as us to have one.

Please don't think I'm being insensitive or self indulgent as we already have a child, I just wanted to put my thoughts down anonymously somewhere.

We're probably going to apply as short term respite carers for children with disablities so I feel we're doing/getting something positive out of our infertility. I hate thinking 'I'm infertile'.

Anyway, that's the rambling end!

I don't think you are being at all unreasonable or insensitive, this must be very hard to come to terms with, as is anything that means a long-held hope or wish is unlikely, regardless of any DCs already. I think it's fantastic that you are looking to do something so positive and hopefully rewarding as a result. Many wouldn't, and if you do decide to do this it sounds like you will be able to give something very special to these children.

Give yourself time to come to terms with this situation, I am sure you are looking After one another.

I am so sorry to hear your news. We are having difficulty TTC no 2 and, although we are still hopeful, I think I understand your feelings.

Yes, we are both so lucky to have one DC, but I don't think it is still perfectly acceptable to be sad you probably won't have a DC2.

So sorry for you. It's so hard to hear the news definitively even if you've suspected it for a long time.

How did you conceive DC1? Is going private an option? Presumably not.

I think becoming respite carers is an amazing thing to do.

You sound very selfless and compassionate

Do your best to cope and find joy in the child you have, but don't give up hope entirely and do be sad when you feel it. My dear friend is welcoming her first child in two months after 11 years of trying. She's never had a proper period (ovulates once every year or so), was only able to go one round of (unsuccessful) treatment with her insurance and then just hit the jackpot. I know she's always wanted loads of children, so it will be bittersweet.

Oh, I'm really sorry to hear that. That must be hard. :(

It's great that you're doing respite care, Dh and I have looked into that and now are planning to adopt from the foster care system at some point.