Fertility Clinic appointment made...what to expect?

[jerzygurl]

Okay so had my 2 and 21 day tests...all was fine..tho again they havent done 1 test i have to go back for ( 3rd time of tryng and losing my bloody blood!)

Hubbys swimmers...doc printed us out the report but didnt really say alot as he said it wasnt his area but then booked us for a fertility clinci appointment which we got in oct..then he rang back and said he wasnt sure if that was the right place to go as we was getting pregnant but not staying pregnant...but then finally called and said yes we need to go..urgh!

Is it because hubbys swimmers? we are trying to decipher the results ..one page says one thing one another..ive been looking and sure it doesnt look good ;/

hubbys gone all quiet n feels like poo..its weird i thought it was all me my age my eggs etc and could very well still be..

its like a minefield when u enter this ..what should we expect at the 30 min clinic appointment?

They will ask you a lot of questions regarding yours and your DHs health and lifestyle. Also family history, re reproductive health and also other aspects (cancer, heart disease etc) They will ask you about your sex life. How often etc.

If you are getting pregnant but misscarrying then it doesn't sounds like the problem is with his sperm, however i could be wrong as there are all sorts of variables. They may recommend further tests to check out your womb and fallopian tubes to see if there is a problem there.

They tend to gloss over tests and make generalisations (sperm count low, not good, ok etc) so if you have specific questions about a part of his results then ask for them to explain them against what the 'norm' is.

The best thing to do it write down all your questions so you don't forget to ask anything. Experiences vary wildy, some consultants can be very sympathetic and easy to talk to, others are more business like and brusk (like mine!) but don't be put off. You might not be going back for a while so best to get all your questions answered now if you can.

I am sorry you are going thru this and that your Hubby is feeling bad. I hope it helps to know you are most definitely not alone and there are LOADS of things he can do to improve his count and motility etc: healthy diet, cutting out booze, cigs, coffee etc and supplements.

@saladbomb ty for replying i feel a lil lost in it all
Id Been blaming myself so much my age etc Hubbys younger no children so ive felt awful i couldnt give him one :( though hes been wonderful about it all..just now this result of his has had him in tears and feeling how i did that he cant give me a child.

Ive been trying to read up and like you said diet/stop smoking/keep bits coooled etc can help and try not make a big deal of it so he doesnt feel bad.

Im going to do what you said and write down any questions we have as im sure ill forget it all when im there

The Doctor asked us about our sex life times etc and that i would have eggs extracted which i had no idea that would happen??I thought that only happened with IVF etc?

i feel amazed actually and am trying to stay positive with my age and if his sperm is low its a miracle we fell twice!

They did say my wombs tilted is that anything?

Also on the second m/c notes it said something about a huge heamorrage (sp) thats worrid me to death :(

Hi jerzygurl, sorry I don't really know about tilted wombs, or the miscarriage (I've never been pregnant unfortunately!), again something to ask your consultant.

We've just been told we are recommended straight to IVF without any of the other treatments that are usually given prior to that so in a way its been a bit of a blow. (unless his second sperm test comes back improved that is) Other treatments are Clomid which stimulates your ovaries to produce more eggs, and IUI where they inject the sperm into the womb to give it a helping hand. Your consultant will assess which treatment will be best but your GP might have been talking about IVF or ISCI ( where they take the eggs out and fertilize them) Also I think your age is a factor (i am older too) and I think that might be why they are recommending we go straight to IVF.

If it makes you feel better it does seem to be easier to sort problems with sperm than if there was something up with you. One sperm test is not enough to be sure what is going on so the FC will no doubt send him for another one, now is the time for him to make changes to improve things so that the 2nd test is better as that might change what treatment they advise. Its a really hard blow for both of you but trying to stay positive is a really good thing! (not easy sometimes) Be good to each other for the next few days. Loads of luck!