Any new crazy knicker checkers out there?

[sayitwithsam]

Hi
I'm 4+4wks pregnant and VERY paranoid after losing my first baby at 21wks. I am trying (and failing) to take my GPs advice and treat this pregnancy as it is, a completely different pregnancy to last time. It's easy to say though and impossible to do. I am trying hard to be positive because I want my baby to live so much but the nightmare flashbacks of the terrible bleeds and giving birth to him knowing he couldn't make it haunts me.

I know I'm not the only one scared to go to the toilet and thinking is that twinge or ache normal? I'd love to hear from anyone else feeling the same mix of joy and panic.

There is a thread:A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

Hopefully someone clever will do a link for you.

I have been where you are, I wish I could be more helpful, I didn't manage to relax the whole way through my pregnancy.

But I did have a lovely baby boy.

Congratulations on your pregnancy the best of luck to you.

Thank you. Was your second pregnancy completely different?

Hi there. You're not alone. I hold my hand up and freely admit to being a crazy knicker checker.

I'm just very very newly pregnant after having had a miscarriage in June. Every single twinge, cramp, imagined drip etc sends me running to the loo to check my undies for the tell tale spotting that I got last time.

I know everyone says to treat each pregnancy as it's own entity and not compare it to the last but it's really hard, so you have my sympathies.

The only thing we can do is take each day/hour/minute as it comes and try to let the excited moments outweigh the panicky ones.

Hi StartflowerGirl
I had my first "oh God no!" moment yesterday when I had a bit of blood with my first morning pee. The GP assured me it was an erosion and nothing to worry about. She said don't say to yourself "oh this happened last time in this month" etc but as she was saying it I thought there's no way I'll be able to do that. But I will try.
I'm also finding my various family members saying "take it easy this time" really hard to swallow. I did everything right last time, I did not go bunjee jumping or lion taming. I was at home in between my many many trips to the hospital.
I'm just going to do what many of you are doing on here and hoping that things go right this time.