No 3 but how to stop BFing DD1 first?

[MrsMcJnr]

Ladies would like to start trying for DC3 but have the following issues.

DD1 (nearly 15m) is still being BF and is showing no signs of getting bored of it (DS self weaned at 8m) She also does not sleep at night so I end up feeding her from 1am onwards (exhausting).

I am a SAHM so both kiddies are with me all day. I haven't had an AF or ovulated since DD was born in June 2009. I actually haven't had an AF since I got pregnant with DS in May 2007.

Can anyone suggest some ways how I am going to get my body back to thinking about making another baby?

DD won't take expressed breast milk or cows milk in a bottle or a cup.

Thanks

If your DD is 15 months, she doesn't actually need to BF any more. You just need her to realise that.
The first feed you should cut out is the 1am one. She is certainly big enough to sleep through. When she wakes, give her a cuddle, change her nappy, offer a drink of water and do nothing else. The first night she will cry a lot. The second a little. The third she probably won't bother. After that she probably won't wake up at all. She's waking for the milk out of habit, not because she needs it.

After that you can start to cut out the other feeds.
The first ones to cut are the middle of the day ones. They can be replaced as appropriate. If she's hungry, give food. If thirsty, give a drink. If bored, play with her. If she wants mummy time, cuddle her. etc etc

After that, I cut out the early morning feed by replacing it with a cup of cow's milk and a prompt breakfast.
The bedtime feed can be replaced at the end with a cup of milk and a cuddle.
By the time you cut out the bedtime feed you'll probably find that she has realised she doesn't need to BF and will wean herself.

Don't worry that she doesn't drink much cow's milk. That will change after she weans.
You can cut out all the feeds in a week or so if you want, but it's much easier on both her and your body if you do it slowly.
Good luck!

There is a TTC when BF thread somewhere, I was on it briefly

You're up feeding from 1am and you want a third????? You're a braver woman than me, MrsMcJnr.

Thanks ladies

Ruthchan - some great practical tips thank you I was sending DH into DD at 1am instead and she would go back to sleep for him without milk but he has just had a knee op and can't go in to her at the mo. I know the night feeding is just habit but at that time of night I am so desperate for sleep I'll do anything, must be stronger!