conceiving your 2nd soon after the 1st- stories please.

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My ds is now 6 weeks, I know you are not super fertile after birth but the conditions are good for conceiving another. But for how long? Do I still stand a chance? Yes I know we are barmy p.s have pco- cysts and very irregular cycles. Any stories or advice welcome :)

my sister has PCOS, and felt an urgent need to have her third soon after her second. Massive mistake.

She fell within a month of having dc2 with dc3. He was born 3 months preemie - the children are 7 months apart.

He has multiple medical problems, spent the first 3 months of his life in ICU at great ormond street. Part of his bowel died, necessitating 2 operations.

He had 6 transfusions. He has a problem with his eyesight. he was on oxygen for the first year of his life. He has needed enemas on a regular basis as his bowels do not work properly. They are also concerned that he has an autistic spectrum issue, and his mental development is very delayed.

he is also dairy intolerant.

DON'T DO IT!

Your body is just not ready to have another parasite living in it. Wait a minimum of 9 months to give yourself time to recover.

I am so sorry to hear about your sister and her little one. Thank you for replyingreplyingreplying

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you are more fertile after giving birth than you are in normal months, i fell pregnant when my son was 8 week old and i was just coming of a period, sadley i had a bad birth with my 1st and i lost the 2nd baby at 2 months preg, they said my body wasnt cabable of carrying another so soon after a bad time. as it takes a normal womans bocy who as had a straight forward birth 18+ month to recover and mine wasnt a straightforward birth.
i really would advise waiting a while longer, as your baby is only 6 week you havent expieriencd the hard times, because for the 1st 3 month there at there easiest, my little boy is nearly 2 and can tell you he gets worse by the day and still doesnt sleep hasnt done since 1 and half month old. and just discoverd im preg again, if i could have waited bit longer i would have, as at the moment its gonna be so hard. just enjoy your little one for abit longer he only 6 weeks, hes gonna need plenty of attention. but its your choice at end of day

i fell with my second when my first was 4 months. it was intentional.
i had a csection with my first and a successful vbac at 39+4 with my second. i also had a very easy pregnancy, no worries about me or baby
my dd is a very bright happy little girl with no health or mental problems.

just to show you the other side of it...

now they are 4 and 3 and are so close and loving, they are like twins :)

My second baby was 6 months when i fell pregnant with 3rd. This was planned because I would like to have 4 children close together in age.

I am due in 3 weeks so will let you know

I would rather have them close together because in the long run it will be easier. Big gaps to me means that you go through all the hard work, then just as things become easier you start all over again.

I have a 14 month gap between my middle 2, managed to conceive the first time we tried - didn't really expect to. The younger one was fine but I suffered badly with spd, very hard when having a big heavy non-walking baby to look after.

There are pros and cons but I think 6 weeks is very soon to try and conceive again tbh

onedge me too :) we are ttc num4 atm :o i have a one year old too!

we have 17 months between our 1st and 2nd, 1st was c-section, 2nd normal birth. 2nd is dairy intolerant and went on resusitur (i have no isea how 2 spell this) when born, but other than that all is good and i hasnt related these things to having 2 close together. youngest will be 3 in oct, waiting to ttc #3!!
good luck (tho i do think ud b very brave trying for anotehr this soon, as it isnt easy with 2, took about 6months for me to feel any kind of normality)

I have a 14 month gap between my 2 (now 17 months and 3 months). Had relatively easy pg both times though it got hard towards the end 2nd time round as DD1 wasn't walking then so had to be carried a lot. I'm glad we had such a small gap as DD1 is now getting quite demanding and if we had waited we would probably have decided not to have another one at all; DD2 is the world's easiest baby at the moment so is an absolute delight.

There is 11months between my boys and its great as they are so close ( now 2 & 3) but it very hard work especially in the beginning.

took me 39 cycles to get preg first time around. Second time I only had sex once and fell pregnant. I was 6 weeks pregnant exactly at DS 1st birthday party, they were 21 months apart, had normal pregnancy and birth. But it was bloody hard work with a young toddler and a newborn, If I had another go I would wait until first child was at least 2 before going for it.

My son is 7 weeks and we intend to try for number two starting December. I had an emcs and was told to wait 6 months - on saying that I've read around a lot and it seems the healing is mostly done in the first few weeks so who knows? I'm 36 years old so can't wait forever, it took me a year to get a pregnancy I was able to carry and I have to do it whilst he's still adorable before he turns in to a monster and I lose my bottle!

Fell pg when ds1 was 6months old (planned - on 1st attempt!) So 15 month age gap. 2nd pg was so much easier for me. Also had EMCS 6wks prm with ds1. Ds2 VBAC 40+4. It's wonderful having them close IMO, obviously it can be V hard work, but worth every bit Pg with dc3 so will have a 19month gap between ds2 and dc3 I would personally wait a few months longer if you can...but I'm sure you'll survive what ever you choose to do